Tried a lawyer, she sank me for thousands without ever doing a thing and I just wont take that road again.

But here’s the thing, he knows you didn’t do anything wrong, he knows you loved him with your whole heart and he knows how good of a girl you are, but he still let you go. While this may seem counterproductive, grieving in this context is the first step toward attaining complete healing. Guys make it very clear when they want a girl around. They are biologically programmed to pursue the women they want! So if he’s not it says a lot. Know that is feelings of grief, despair, and sadness will pass. You will start to get glimpses of sunshine and joy as the clouds break. You will start to feel better about yourself and your life again! But first, you have to work through your grief. That’s the only way to move on, and how to resolve the anger, loneliness, and frustration you may feel.

I know this doesn’t seem possible. It seems like a big mistake. He’s such a good man, you keep telling yourself — he’s just having a momentary crisis. If you remind him of your life together with little, innocent notes every now and then, surely he’s going to wake up from this stupor, right? If you’ve been dumped, you don’t have to step out as Ms or Mr Amazing the next day, but you owe it to yourself to face reality and — when you’re ready — create a new way forward. For example, it’s typically easier to digest the idea that you and your partner “grew apart” than it is to consider the possibility that he or she fell out of love with you. The first reason is practical and plausible; the latter can be a devastating blow to the heart and ego. Yes, that might be a reason because a lot of people isolate themselves when they’re dealing with a lot of stress. He is preparing his territory before making a move. How does a woman feel when he leaves her for another woman?

My heart aches with yours. Just before our 26th wedding anniversary my wife told me she no longer wanted to be in a relationship. She had an affair and i found out about, and I think she can’t stand living with the guilt, so by leaving the marriage the guilt goes away. We are separated now for 6 months. We have kids high school age. I still love her and want to be with her for the rest of my life. This has been like going through the pain of a 100 deaths. I couldn’t imagine it being so tough. I’m saying this to let you know that you are not the only one. And I have plenty of divorced friends who are now happy. Hang in there. Now his focus is somewhere else. You might say that maybe he’s struggling with internal problems or with his family or something. All you can do is stay strong and stay true to yourself, let the moments of weakness in and allow them to break you down into a puddle of your own tears. Those moments of weakness and vulnerability will only make you stronger. My friend has not moved forward with a separation agreement, or any movement with her husband in that way.She has of course admitted adultery yet refuses to accept this in the papers and has filled against me. Thank you for your comment, Lorrie. We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. We have more information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html

Yet, when it comes to him to let you know what he thinks about the mutual future, he is silent or changes the subject. He might even compare you to other women, especially to women who look like the one he might be leaving you for. Trying to figure out why your partner/spouse left you can become the bane of your existence. Even if there appears on the surface to be an obvious and uncomfortable reason, your brain will search for answers that feel satisfying and rational. A year and a half has passed and she calls me one day, “we broke up and I need your help with the kids”.Even if you ask him about the simplest thing such as where he’s going or what he’s doing, he will become defensive. I broke down and hit the ultimate low and the very next day she used it and stripped me of custody and I didn’t get to see my kids for 7 months. Darkest days of my life. I was paralyzed, I couldn’t stop thing about her about us about him about our kids about the hell they were living in.