To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average. If you’re thinking “well he doesn’t seem very stressed by it, that’s half the problem”, he is probably blocking it all out and hoping it will go away.

It offered some solid advice and some that I thought to be a bit unrealistic, although it may be realistic for other kids (like writing their feelings in a journal… a great idea but I’m not sure it applies to the kids he’s talking about). Appearing like he's "too cool for school" means he doesn't need to face all this pressure, or have people find out he really isn't that smart.Additionally, what about our LGBTQ boys that approach their transformation into sexual beings in perhaps a different way? He seems to think what they need is more work they’ll never do to figure out why they’re not doing work. Is this what YOU want for him so YOU can feel good about what a great parent you are or so his achievements can make up for something we wished we did in our own childhoods?

I have read several books about teenagers and parenting but this book has greatly surprised me so far. Also, and importantly, they have some kind of issues where they are super immersed in their kid's life, like they get all their self-esteem from their kids accomplishments. He contradicts almost everything he says in the book and he wastes tons of pages assuming you’re some kind of helicopter parent. The advice given might not work for every situation, but as a parent who also speaks to a lot of other parents, it carries validity for some situations. However, as I was reading the introduction, I got already convinced that this book is going to be a great tool for me.I am the father of a very successful daughter whose achievements were gained through hard work with little prompting from my wife and me. As someone who is always looking for new evidence and creative thinking about young adults’ mental health and wellbeing, I have read a LOT of books about the teenage brain or raising kids. Self-efficacy and personal responsibility are necessary skills in life; if you let you son develop those character traits and skills, he WILL eventually get there! Parents can help by giving chart outline of steps and strategies but let them fill it in after one or two helping them. I read this book because it was marketed to focus on raising boys with the ADHD however, it essentially applies to every male.