I'm a straight guy and have never had any form of sexual experience with a guy until a couple of months ago. I understand you feel terrible about keeping this secret from your girlfriend. Honesty is the cornerstone of any relationship. But some stones are better left unturned. Ultimately you’ll have to decide this on your own. Recently, there has been a turnaround of sorts. You see, I had resigned myself into being the one doing who was doing the servicing. It’s not that I mind. I’ve always found Mike attractive. This guy is one of my best friends (if not my best friend). He was one of the first people I came out to. He has always been very supportive of my lifestyle, and is always there for me to talk to. Both of us are single, with Mike breaking up with his girlfriend shortly after the New Year. I don’t know why their relationship collapsed but, I think it had something to do with communication issues.

Oh, it is also easy enough to find “straight” men who are married to women to have sex with. They troll bars, parks, baths, etc and some are even so bold as to still wear their wedding rings, talk about their wives, their kids, and how no one knows what they like to do in bed. As sexuality falls within a sliding scale, (according to Kinsey) I think most people who have any form of gay sex would probably be around a 2.5 where 0 is completely straight and 10 is completely gay. I feel like I want to text him to tell him how I'm feeling but I wonder whether it is just best left alone and hope that it's not awkward the next time I see him, whenever that may be. In the days that followed that first incident, I worried about our friendship turning awkward. If you’ve ever gotten with a guy who identifies as straight, you know what I mean. Things can turn south real fast. I can't answer this question. I can point to the end of our friendship and say that there were specific situations that caused us to get into an argument and end things. But I'll never know for sure what, if any, impact the sexual encounter 1.5 years earlier had on our friendship ending.I don’t remember if any words were exchanged, but it was definitely on from that point. We only fooled around – mainly oral with him being the receiver. He tried to go for more, but he was too drunk to find any lube. Finally we passed out on a blanket on the floor. I decided to confide in a mutual straight friend (we’ll call him "Doug") because I felt like I needed to talk to somebody I trusted and who was familiar with Jeff. I thought I could trust Doug not say anything, and he didn’t for about 6 months. Then one day Doug and Jeff got into a heated argument, and Doug brought up what I had told him about Jeff. Doug did this just to be hurtful to Jeff, but of course it had serious implications for me as well. Much of what happened next is a foggy blur. I remember some quiet moaning and grunting. For the most part, he kept his hands clasped behind his head.

For example, when a “closeted” gay or bisexual man has sex with another man, he views that sex as reflecting his secret gay/bisexual identity. When a straight-identified man has sex with another man, he views himself as straight despite sex with men.

A minority of the men I interviewed were homophobic and held prejudice against LGBTQ2+ people and this prejudice makes the thought of an LGBTQ2+ identity unappealing to them. However, the majority of the men, supported same-sex marriage and the right for same-sex couples to raise children. If you notice that he's doing something like that, and you see your friendship slowly circling around in the toilet - about to be flushed, it might be time to have a blunt and honest conversation about what happened. This is pretty much a last resort in a desperate hope to repair things. In the end though, he got me to release – but wow it took a lot of work. “Just do it dude – it’s your turn. Take a toke and put on the mask” The Here and Now Eventually, things came to a head. After about 9 months of feeling like I was doing all the work to keep the friendship together, he cancelled on me one night at the last minute. I'd had enough. I called him and gave him a piece of my mind (the sexual encounter was never brought up). We haven't talked since that phone call.

There are only 3 reasons I can think of for you to talk about this with him. Otherwise, just keep quiet.I probably wouldn’t mention this to your girlfriend. Others will disagree with me on this advice, but I just don’t see how telling her can make the situation any better; it can certainly make the situation worse. She likely will not understand how or why this could’ve happened (just like you are unable to understand how or why it happened). She will have more questions than you’ll have answers for, and your answers may not be to her satisfaction. I really think it’s best to not bring this up to her. Could a straight guy get drunk enough to fool around with another guy just because it “felt good”, or is it more likely that he has some gay/bi/curious feelings that perhaps he’s been repressing? he told the girlfriend that he was drunk and remembers nothing so she can believe the lie too. he told you that as well as an indirect way of saying "whatever happened, dont bring it up again and it did not happen". We both ended up getting totally wasted, to the point where I can't remember big parts of the night. All I know is that some stuff happened that really shouldn't have happened. The guy it happened with is gay and is one of my closest friends and we have known each other for years.