In the past you may have told yourself you were fat, out of shape, unhealthy, and lazy. This negative self-talk is destructive, but it doesn’t define you. And it doesn’t make you fat, out of shape, unhealthy, and lazy.

A majority of the prompts were unnecessary for me because I answered them through an earlier one. Most of the sections were totally irrelevant to me at this stage of my life. They might have been helpful at an earlier stage of my life though.

This no-nonsense guide will help you shut up that hateful inner critic and get you feeling more positive about yourself and your life.”— Women’s Health He talks a lot about our self talk and how we can talk ourselves out of taking actions because we’ve decided whatever the goal is, we’re too stupid or the goal is too unrealistically hard. Positive self-talk can dramatically improve mood, boost confidence, and increase positivity. “The more you tell yourself how hard something is, the harder it will actually seem.” Even things like doing laundry or vacuuming can seem overwhelming. This is one of the areas of “Unfu*k Yourself” that most spoke to me. I’ve talked about how during my mini-retirement I want to get outside of my comfort zone and explore new experiences. And largely I haven’t in the two months since I quit my job.

Be specific when it comes to your objectives and create attainable, step-by-step plans to achieve them. However, in the process of planning, it is important to let your expectations go and truly think about what you want out of your life. Falling into the trap of your own mind is a common mistake in this process. The simple truth is this… I get results. And I’ll teach you everything you need to know, so you can maintain those results. So answer me this.Another way we drown progress is by setting up grand expectations in our mind and then comparing our progress to those expectations. Whatever you refuse to forgive, keeps living in you as long as you keep holding to it and affects negatively your life. Forgiveness doesn’t mean letting people of the hook for their bullshit or being used, duped, taken advantage of. Forgiving someone doesn’t make you better than they are (that’s self righteousness). Forgiveness is seeing pass what a person did, don’t compare what you would have done but try to understand where they are coming from given their life and circumstances. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you are allowing same behaviour from the past from you or them. It can also include taking a stand of what you are willing to allow or not in your life. You can forgive and let go (remove them from your life) and do without any cynicism, resentment or lost of who you are. Building muscle takes time. One workout won’t cut it. In fact, for most people, you’ll need to put in the hard reps for a lot longer than you realise. Putting Unfu*k Yourself in the self-help category is selling it short. Instead, it belongs in the self-help/motivation/comedy/ inspiration/oh-man-I-do-that-BS-all-the-time/personal-and-professional-development section of the bookstore. The Manual