This evidence-based workbook will show you how to set healthy boundaries across all aspects of life—without sacrificing your kindness or compassion for others. You’ll learn to define your boundaries and discover why they’re so important for your emotional and physical well-being. You’ll also find a wealth of tips for maintaining boundaries in a ‘constantly-connected’ world, strategies for what to do when people get upset or threatened by your assertiveness, and ways to make sure your needs are met. The book contains a very large number of what I call "pastor stories." Probably, these vignettes come from actual examples in the authors' private practice, with the names and details changed to protect patient confidentiality... but they come across as those stories used by pastors to prove a point. You know the ones--anecdotes about people who only have first names, with no clear evidence to suggest that they are factual, but they perfectly (and conveniently) encapsulate the message that the pastor is trying to get across. I don't trust stories like these, and while the clinical experience of the authors lends a little credence to them, I'm still not a fan. Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions: Case in point-- Wife is chronically late. Husband nags and begs his wife to be on time. She doesn't respect his boundaries by not changing and coming on time. Solution? Leave with out her. After doing this a couple of times, she'll come around.

This is not too dissimilar from what Jordan Peterson says in 12 Rules For Life, whereby parents who allow children who disrespect them eventually grow to resent them. We need to set mental, physical, emotional and spiritual boundaries for our lives to help us distinguish what is our responsibility and what isn't. Parenting with love and limits, with warmth and consequences, produces confident children who have a sense of control over their lives. At first glance, it seems as if the individual who has difficulty setting limits is the one who has the boundary problem; however people who don't respect others limits also have boundary problems.

Setting and communicating our personal boundaries to others allows us to protect ourselves. They allow us to separate who we are as unique individuals, including our thoughts and feelings, from others. They prohibit other people from manipulating, abusing, or using us. Boundaries allow us to preserve our individual integrity. The reader of the audiobook version is a top speaker. Great vocal variety, great dialogues, great tonality.. Really gives life to the book and it feels like listening to a play. Review

I truly want to thank these authors for breaking this down for anyone and everyone who might take the time to read this book. And I want to thank my friend, Kay, for introducing me to this book and opening up a whole new world to me. I will say that I will be investing in the other books they have written on boundaries (Boundaries in Marriage, Boundaries with Kids, Boundaries with Teens, etc.). We need to take responsibility for our choices. This leads to the fruit of "self control" (Gal. 5:23). A common boundary problem is disowning our choices and trying to lay he responsibility for them on someone else.... We need to realize that we are in control of our choices....Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership. People who grew up in these families still feel guilty for setting up boundaries as adults. Boundaries Attract High-Quality People Set Boundaries, Find Peaceis a down-to-earth and practical guide on fully realizing your potential and giving yourself the freedom you deserve by clearly setting healthy boundaries in your personal and professional life, friendships, and relationships. Eye-opening and thoroughly engaging.” Nope. Not my responsibility to get a grown adult from point A to point B because she wants to attend the event. If she really wanted to attend the event, she would find her way there via her car, or carpool w someone else, or via one of the following or a combination of the following: bus, train, water taxi, car taxi, Uber, Lyft, horse drawn carriage, bike, Segway, scooter, rollerblades...