For those not in the know, subspace is what Monieau describes as being a ‘nice bonus’ of being a submissive.

Please pray for me, that I might be given the grace and fortitude to become the submissive, proper woman and wife that God Almighty desires for me to be. I can do nothing apart from His love and life within me. Also, as far as non-corporal punishments are concerned, your husband can always have you write lines, write an essay, require you to respond "Yes, Sir" to a direct question or command for a time, ground you, or some other non-spanking discipline. When you’re working full time, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances their full-time employment with their submissive role, one of their most concerns will always be finding a way to please their dominant while maintaining a strong professional image outside of the home. Regardless, it was difficult to find any information about balancing a professional life with the submissive desires, so this article is dedicated to the people who, wish to explore the D/s relationship dynamic and continue to work in the business world. If you enjoy DD/lg, some examples that call for for sub punishments for littles include not cleaning their room, spending too much time on their phone, etc. Don’t be Too Soft With Submissive PunishmentsPeriod sex is still considered wildly taboo even though it's perfectly commonplace and we've all done it either accidentally or on purpose at least once before. If you're preparing to shag someone who is bleeding, just think of it as extra red hot lube and dive right in. Contrary to popular belief period sex is not unhygienic and nothing bad will happen to you (aside from ruining your sheets if you don't put a towel down). And for the bleeder? Prepare for relief from cramps, an increased libido, a shorter period and some seriously steamy messy play. Some people really like it, so don't be shy. 22. Anal sex Actually, when we first decided to do LDD really seriously, my HOH came home on a Friday with a gift for me. One patient of mine was very young when her father spanked her for something he believed she had done wrong. Her dad reacted very angrily, and spanked her hard on her bare bottom causing a lot of shame, rather than holding on to the shame it’s common for people to later in life turn the traumatic experience into a sexual one to help cope with what they have experienced, leading to a strong emotional connection between spanning and sex, which now manifests as a spanning desire or fetish. Establish boundaries: informed consent is the most important aspect of exploring kinky sex, so lay the ground rules before you get started. Communication is key, so talk through with your partner(s) about what you are and aren’t expecting, and where your limits are. In removing or putting on of shoes, I always kiss the tops of His feet. Once the shoes are off or on respectively, from my kneeling position I wrap my arms around His calves and press my head down softly on His lap. He then bends at the waist and embraces me and we hold that moment. In this way, I show my devotion and love, and He shows His acceptance and reciprocation.

Failure to comply with any rules should usually result in some sort of submissive punishment. The harshness should be determined by the severity of the misdeed. For example, if a sub waits 15 minutes to respond to a Dom’s text message, an intense caning would probably be too much. As I grew older, I came to terms with conventional ideas of male and female roles. I became a full-on feminist. It’s like I did a 180, which ended up being a 360. Research first: before trying out any kink, do plenty of research to make sure it’s really for you – especially for kinks sitting at the more extreme end of the scale. The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance is a good place to start. Touching Restrictions- The submissive is not allowed to touch or be touched by the Dominant. If the submissive shows their affection through touch, this can be especially difficult.

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This kinky little game requires the correct accessories, but once you've invested in a vagina pump you're all set. Pussy and clit pumps work by creating a vacuum over the labia and/or clitoris. Increasing blood flow makes the area become (temporarily) engorged and consequently more sensitive and ergo more pleasurable; perfect for a good pounding. 17. Temperature play I like someone who is self-assured and can command a presence,’ she says. ‘I like someone with a dark side. Not a dark side as in, their personality shows red flags, but someone who can do some nasty, amazing things to me.’ Important reminder: the subject of discipline should always be discussed beforehand to keep things consensual and safe, which is why reading The Ultimate Guide to a Safe BDSM Lifestyle is important. A written BDSM contract can list the types of punishments that are acceptable, and the severity that is agreed on. Every day, when I wake up I would like an message telling me what you are going to wear that day and the name placement. Undergarments are to be included. As a submissive, when I hear these things, it helps me relax. It helps me trust. It helps me see myself the way my Dom sees me. I want to please him, and when I please him, he rewards me. And that thrills me more than anything. He has me and it makes me want to do more to please him. I’m delighted and fulfilled when he is happy with me.