Record your sub having an orgasm. Use this as their ringtone and call their phone in front of other doms/subs, at a fetish club, or at a sex party. Lines- Think like the bad students writing “I will not chew gum” on the board over and over again. Same concept. Both of the writing punishments are effective because they require internal thought combined with a physical action. There is something cathartic that happens when you commit an idea or thought to paper. It helps commit the idea to memory. When you’re on the receiving end of this type of punishment you may be asked to count the number of strikes. Counting aloud can really drive home the importance of the rule and the consequence for breaking it. This punishment doubles as a productive activity, so it’s extra impactful if it’s an errand for you, not one of their own.

Chastity cages come in different lengths according to what your penis needs and essentially stop you from being able to get an erection and have sex. To make things worse, have your sub perform an unpleasant task while it’s on. Maybe chores, or maybe make them do something difficult/pointless. Weekend Excursion* —You get the “two to get ready” activities, your choice of two (of the nine) long assignments, your choice of one (of the four) events and as many of the punishments you would like. In two weeks I will be helping Stacee Skye go on KDPi Sissy Spring Break, and this year you have the opportunity to go along too. (General membership in The Institute is not required.) In addition to cross dressing punishment, this year will focus on toilet training and diapers along with the constant threat of public humiliation. You will go out with me while I shop and go about my day. And just because we’re in public doesn’t mean you don’t have to curtsy.Like I said earlier, discipline and punishment are two totally different things, but they are related. A good Dom will help teach the submissive how to push their limits. They are training the sub to be the best sub that they can be for them. There are lots of Bluetooth and internet-controlled long-distance sex toys available today. Some are small and discrete and can be worn in public. Again, be sure you cover any suspicious behavior with an excuse so you avoid involving the public in your kink.

BDSM is all about embracing a person’s inner kink and fantasy. At the same time, it can also be too much to handle at a certain point.One way that you can do that is to use positive reinforcement when the submissive is following the rules. Positive reinforcement can be as effective as corporal punishment. Rewards can be used as motivators. As a submissive myself, nothing makes me happier than pleasing my Dominant. If I please him, then he reciprocates with more doting behavior. He delights in making me happy. So if I follow the rules, he rewards me. It makes me want to keep behaving. Positive reinforcement works best for me. Adjust this time to make it fairer on your partner if you need to – or less fair if you want the punishment to be severe. Once the punishment is completed, aftercare is critical for the mental well-being of the submissive. The punishment is meant to hurt so that the undesired behavior doesn’t happen again. Aftercare reassures the sub that they are still cared for. The aftercare after punishment is not the same as aftercare after a scene. There should be some reassurance to the submissive to remind them they aren’t bad, they are still loved. Avoiding shame triggers is a vital part of protecting the submissive’s emotional and mental health.