Every once in a while, I'll look at my husband's texts. I'm paranoid he has one of those apps that tell you when someone's been on your phone—but apparently not paranoid enough." — Amy

Of course, we're not talking about organic solvents (hopefully). We're talking about semen, but even that can hurt when entering an eye because it can contain acid phosphatase and citric acid. A man's sperm can also carry all sorts of diseases and infections, like the dreaded HIV, and that's not something you want to transmit or receive if you can help it. Hopefully you wouldn't willfully put yourself or your partner at risk if infected, but it's easy to incur and infection and not necessarily know about it. The Body, a popular HIV resource, explains why the eyes are a point of risk: To break up or forgive ... is your decision to be made and whatever you decide is a correct decision for you. The image of what you saw her doing will, indeed, linger in your mind for a very long time, perhaps for ever, and it will always be a trigger of anxiety, regret, anger, disgust... Some people can live with that and some don't. If you are a guy who can't then cut your losses and divorce. And there may be more. Some wives like being able to feel it, and not all can feel ejaculation internally. Some like to see it (yes, some women are visual as well). Some just don’t want to walk around all day feeling like they’re “leaking”. So, there are lot of times where ejaculating on your wife may be beneficial. And some of my coaching clients have gone “eww…” at the thought, but it works. In short, the husband is not allowed to ejaculate anywhere except in, or on, his wife. Why? Because it removes the ability to orgasm alone and so it removes the ability for the husband to have a sexual life apart from his wife. But, it still allows for mutual masturbation, and that can be very helpful for many husbands who are struggling to remove themselves from porn. Sometimes husbands find they can’t have sex any more because they’re so used to porn. Their brain doesn’t associate their wife with enough sexual stimulation to get erect, let alone orgasm, and so mutual masturbation forms a bridge to retrain the husband to have a sexual relationship with his wife again, and ejaculating on his wife further helps that connection. It insures there are very close when he orgasms, which helps when oxytocin is released and imprints that connection in his mind. During her periodI was mortified, but at the same time, I was given a gift. A gift to see that my husband was going to be there for me no matter what. That he was going to be someone I could laugh with, have romantic dinners with, walk on the beach with, and enjoy the good times with, but he was also going to be someone who would stay by my side when I was at my worst. And that’s what matters most in life and in marriage. I knew that something was going to come out somewhere. It was just a matter of time. NOOOOOOOOOO! Not on my honeymoon! Then, the decision becomes again, mutual masturbation, or give up. Before a gynecologist appointment I have a confession to make: When my husband Chris is out of town, I tend to act a little...differently. While the stereotype is that men only take a few short minutes to orgasm, the truth is that some take considerably longer. And while there may be some wives thinking “that would be amazing!” It’s less amazing if they struggle from delayed ejaculation. Especially when they run out of energy before they can reach the point of orgasm.

I don't think someone can really rebuild the loving trust there USED to be after something like this. But, it’s key that she likes it too, otherwise it’s demeaning. Jenny, 26, east London, genderqueer and bisexual, works in customer service Photos like these make me all smiley that I made a set called "entropy", photos like this one really feel at home with the sense of "entropy". I love how you can see the girl’s eyes looking right at you, as you come all over her face. It’s the ultimate sort of ownership. Gavin, 35, London, straight, works in technology It was Day 3 of our honeymoon…dun…dun…dun! A day I will never forget. A day I learned what marriage was really about.This happened to my fiancé a few years ago (not by me). He stayed, but she cheated three more times. By the end he was broken, and he still has major trust issues. He left in the end and now we are happier than ever in our relationship. Problems in a relationship need to be resolved together, and not by cheating, so it's not your fault she cheated. That is her choice and her responsibility. Sometimes, I worry that my liking it when a guy comes on my face makes me a bad feminist, but after the act is done, my partner gently wipes my face and thanks me. So, okay, keeping some habits on the DL in your marriage is apparently normal, although I bet women aren't the only ones who do this. Just to be sure, I asked a married guy friend. Speed through sex because you really, really want to be done in time for the new episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians.