They may also feel like they are in direct competition with their partner to ensure they are a “good” partner. Success is exciting. It’s fun, and it feels good. But the overachiever does not necessarily view success as something to celebrate. But by being authentic and honest about your struggles instead of covering them up or avoiding failure, you create a rich opportunity to meaningfully connect with other people. The need to overachieve is often rooted in anxiety and the need to maintain control over everything within reach. Alas, there are downsides to having an overachiever personality. Not least that the high standard you work to and the success you achieve often comes through ‘excess’ effort.

The overachiever is continuously looking forward to potential problems and projects that are coming their way. Here’s that link again if you’d like to learn more about the service BetterHelp.com provide and the process of getting started. Too many people try to muddle through and do their best to overcome issues that they never really get to grips with. If it’s at all possible in your circumstances, therapy is 100% the best way forward.You can be someone that gets things done, a lot of things done, without undermining your relationships or ruining your health. Still not sure how to stop being an overachiever? Talking to someone can really help you to handle whatever life throws at you. It’s a great way to get your thoughts and your worries out of your head so you can work through them.

The authentic you is not perfect and will not always achieve. The authentic you will get things wrong from time to time and may be a little bit weird.If they failed, then maybe they didn’t try hard enough, work hard enough, do everything that was within their power to succeed. Maybe they were lazy!