her last spanking, which occured when she was 18 years old. (contributed by jan) - In her biography debby

I can’t just list the positives here. Sometimes we spank our kids because we are angry at them. We might be angry because they continue to push the boundaries and we haven’t disciplined them yet, so we just get hotter and hotter until we explode. Other times we are angry because we have been inconvenienced or embarrassed by them. Unfortunately, this happens far too often and is one of the reasons corporal punishment has such a bad reputation. Spanking is not a tool to relieve our frustration. What are the Benefits? I was home alone with him and we were again by the pool. Stevie absolutely refused to listen to anything I said.When I was in my 20s I moved in with a women 12 years my senior. She was quite beautiful and sophisticated. I was living in her house and shortly aster moving in she began to discuss “rules of the house.” I was attracted to her and needed a place to stay so I listened and when she first said violations would be met with swift stern punishment. I felt a strange sense of titillation and I thought ok I will go along. She asked if I had been spanked by my mom growing up and when I said no, she said it showed. She lived in a duplex she shared with her aging mother and when she thought I hadn’t shown her mother the proper degree of respect she scolded me and listed a number of infractions that she deemed worthy of correction. Before instituting any kind of discipline there should be the goal of teaching and correcting rather than just punishing for the sake of executing parental justice. This is honestly the hardest part for any parent. Usually we discipline in the moment and don’t give much thought to why we are doing it other than we want a certain behavior to stop. Here are some principles that can be helpful with any kind of discipline, not just spanking. The Right Way Reserve Spanking for Serious Offenses Other implements we have used since then include freshly cut switches from the garden and birch twigs tied together, which I can use as an alternative to the hairbrush, when I have Melanie in position over my knee. More recently Melanie has expressed an interest in the French martinet – which is a little multi-thong whip that was traditionally used for the discipline of girls in France. Melanie has asked her Dad if he can make one in his workshop, so I’m sure that an elegant martinet will be added to our collection of disciplinary implements in the near future. So you can see that we do have plenty of options which allow us to provide our daughter with a variety of chastisements, which she will find as memorable as they are effective. Just the other day I said a curse word, I said the S word when talking on the phone with a friend. He heard it and sternly said Watch your language. I said sorry and when I hung up he said Come here. I stood in front of him and he reached behind me and swatted by ** with his hand hard and said I don’t like you using that language. I said I was sorry and he said turn around I’m going to spank you. I turned around and bent over slightly and he spanked me ** the **. I said sorry again and he hugged me and gave me a kiss and then we made love. He can be gentle or rough in bed and he was very rough that night.

Toss it. Grounding has no place in a positive discipline approach to raising a child. Children don't have to suffer to learn. Grounding is a form of punishment where adults do something to a child. Instead, think about ways to solve a discipline problem with your child. A bare-bottom spanking is effective because it makes the disciplinary experience for the naughty girl much more meaningful and memorable. So in taking Melanie’s panties down before a spanking, we are demonstrating our parental authority in a manner which is very positive and purposeful, with no qualms whatever about propriety. It is our duty as her parents to spank our daughter on her bare bottom and Melanie respects us all the more for so doing. Change it. Time-out is recommended when the purpose is positive: To give a child a chance to take a break for a short time and try again as soon as he feels better. This cooling-off period allows a child to "do" better because it gives him a chance to "feel" better. Since the term time-out has so many negative associations, you might ask your child to rename it, something like cooling-off spot or feel-good place. When Dad had finished spanking me, he put me down and I started walking over to the pool. On previous occasions when I had been spanked, I had found the cool water very helpful on my sore butt. But Dad saw what I was up to and told me to sit right down on the hard wooden bench, which was very uncomfortable on my newly-sore bottom. Dad then grilled some meat (other than my butt!) and we ate outside once everything was cooked.This type of relationship works with same sex couples. We are both females. I put my girlfriend over my knee when she gets out of line. My girlfriend is a big girl (5’11”) and I’m quite small (4’10”), but I insist on putting her over my knee as it adds to the humiliation. And, don’t let my petite size fool you. I give tough spankings that will change undesirable behaviors. So that first six months was very much a period of adjustment for our daughter and we didn’t let her get away with anything. So if she showed even a trace of disrespect or bad attitude, she would find herself taking a trip over my knee with her panties down for a good, sound spanking on her bare bottom. Through constant reinforcement in this way, with lectures, spankings and corner time, Melanie’s behavior began to improve. Not overnight by any means, but week by week we began to see real improvement. A woodshed whuppin’ can now be up to around 80+ swats/lashes for me. To many, that probably sounds too severe, and to some it might sound like not enough. But I really think that just depends on the the person who is getting spanked and their limits. I DO have a decent ability to take a harsh spanking and she knows my limits very well. She spanks to the point of being effective without stopping too soon. Again, that amount will vary by couple, by implement, and by experience. From a spankee’s perspective…if you’re consenting to a punishment spanking to improve behavior and/or attitude, it SHOULD be something that will be effective and last for a good month or two. I know it does for me.

When Denise’s spanking was over and she returned to the spot where she had been standing, Kate looked at me and said: “Your turn, young man.” I was standing about 10ft away, but the walk to that bench felt like one of those dreams in which you are walking toward a destination but never get any closer to it. My head was spinning – I felt scared, embarrassed, and exhilarated, all at the same time.

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A rod and a reprimand impart wisdom, but a child left undisciplined disgraces its mother.” – Proverbs 29:15 NIV So six months down the line we had an 18 year old daughter who had learned the importance of being respectful and considerate, honest and dutiful, diligent in her school work and in her household chores. This is not to say that since then Melanie has always lived up to the high standards that we have set for her. She certainly has fallen short on many occasions. But the most important thing is that she learned through discipline that these standards are important – a higher level to which she should constantly aspire. Instead, parents need to help a child make a connection before a correction. First ask, "What happened?" Then, "How do you think Sammy felt when you took his toy away?" For very young children, try taking a time-out together in a place that encourages calm and quiet. It may include cushions, a favorite stuffy, or a book to read. – Jane Nelsen Grounding

Long story short I didn't settle down and taunted him saying he wouldn't F****ng dare! (don't often curse) He said We'll see. Anita Bensoussane wrote:Are teachers allowed to use corporal punishment at your school, Ming? Pupils were caned when I was at school (though I avoided it, partly through behaving myself and partly through not getting caught if I didn't! ). However, caning was used sparingly and was abolished in Britain in 1987. I would get a few more spankings from Kate after she became my stepmother, but that first spanking from her holds a special place in my heart. On the first day of my visit, we all hit it off great. Kate was very nice to me, and Denise and Kristie were a lot of fun to play with. Moreover, I thought Kate very pretty, and developed a crush on her almost immediately.On the second day, things took an unexpected turn, while we were all at a neighbourhood playground. Kristie was playing on the jungle gym, while Denise and I took turns on the slide. Kate and Dad sat at a nearby picnic table, talking and watching us. out at a friend's house when she was supposed to go home. I put on my galoshes and walked very fast to Also, there are other tools in the parenting toolbox. Keeping kids on the right path isn’t always about punishment, it is also about encouragement and rooting out the deeper heart issues that keeps a defiant kid in constant trouble. Spending time with your kids, especially time outside, will do wonders for your relationship which makes your word and opinion carry more weight. If you can practice that, there’s a good chance spankings will be few and far between. Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your Hi Kim. I too went to college, 30 years ago now. I could have stayed in a dorm but one of my mother's friends knew of a single older lady who lived in the area and took in students. She was married but had no children.