p. 90 Breaking our heart happens because love, by definition, requires you don't give up. But imagine, both soulmate and karma relationship are not Twin Flame. They are painful to give up. p. 37 - We are not ourselves with soulmates. It is all about making the relationship work in such a self-less way that the self disappears. (my paraphrase). What kills this relationship is that you feel too much not yourself. She talks about core needs. "Our core needs are not only the motivator for any relationship we enter into, they are also the baramoter for whether or not it will last or not." Early in life our core needs are socially based. That is what drives people to marry their soul mate. p. 76 - "Everything in life has a vibrational frequency. Emotions such as love and happiness hold a higher vibration, while jealousy, anger, and revenge hold a lower frequency." They then talk about people that stay in love to be a martyr b/c we are trying to make everyone happy. That's no good b/c we make lower vibrational choices. Finding love is a journey and while we fall in love only three times in our lifetime, each has its specific reason. Whereas the characters may be different or more than three, these represent distinct phases of love that we must transition through until we find true love. This is the love that breaks us. We make conscious efforts to make it work and we fail to question if that is possible. In the end, this love fails leaving our hearts shattered once again.

p. 77 - "Because in this phase, our karmic relationship, we learn that we can't make something last that is supposed to end; we can't make something right that was never really meant to be."The second time we fall in love is definitely considered as the hardest. It is the one to teach us big life lessons about ourselves and how we want/need to be treated and consequently, loved. It is the one that hurts us to the core, I’m afraid, as there tend to be sufficient amounts of manipulation or lies even involved. Wow! This resonates with me so much. I’m currently going through a breakup from my “karmic love” (which according to this is love #2). This explains my former relationship to a T... it’s actually freaky. It is often said that we tend to fall in love with only three people in our lifetime, all for a specific, unique reason.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein When we start to understand that each person is having their own individual experience and is writing their own story in this life, apart from us, then we can understand that nothing anyone does is because of us.” She has also built a private international coaching practice specializing in relationships and women's empowerment along with leading retreats around the globe. Kate lives in the Hidden Hills of Massachusetts with her daughters; Emma, 13, Abigail, 9 and seizes as many chances as she can to learn through love. When you start dating, it just fits. Your personalities bounce off each other like a trampoline. You compliment each other’s strengths and weakness and you both feel like you take on the world. While I generally consider experiencing the phases personally as a better way to learn about love, it is totally fine to learn your lessons in a milder way. The lessons you learn about love from the three stages of love prepare you for what love should be. How long would it take to find the third love?

Well, the first one all begins when we’re young. It’s called the “idealistic love”. It’s kind of like a fairy tale. We believe we’re doing it for our family and society.