I put on a lovely pair of black lingerie and then put on a black dress, pantyhose and heels along with a nice shoulder length hair wig.

I couldn’t stop thinking about dressing up in cute dresses and every time I saw any girl in a lovely dress, I couldn’t stop fantasizing about how I would look in them. Every person in your life is at a different point in their lives and our journeys are all different from each other. He needs to accept that you might have an aversion to his crossdressing and to lay aside the sociocultural criticism for a moment and understand it is totally okay for you to feel that way. She had set her drinks after finishing the pasta, and she reached out, touching me on the arm, “Nope. Devika got up and stood in front of me and leaned over, putting her hands on my burning cheeks and whispered, “It’s okay Anu; it’s okay.

I hope both cross dressers and their partners take the time to read, re-read and ponder the many questions and answers presented.

I’m more of a chub, and although a lot of his things WILL fit me, they are snug, and I don’t really do snug. You are allowed to be angry and hurt and to feel whatever you’re feeling (not that you need anyone’s permission to feel anything). My biggest concern, aside from what I already mentioned about violence against him… if that if we ever have a kid… what will happen when we reach the point that our child starts school, starts interacting with other kids without our supervision, etc. In my opinion they are feeling a little less inhibited when they are en femme compared to when they are dressed in boy clothes which makes someone feel a little more… receptive to things.I don’t even think about it as crosdressing anymore, it’s just my androgynous and gender transgressing style often more in the vein of early 1970s Keith Richards than Eddy Izzard.

Mind you, I have an attention deficit and as a result, can hyper-focus, obsess on my perfectionism, and as long as I remained closeted and ashamed, that manifested unhealthily in my crossdressing. Those moments of giving in to the compulsion were always followed by intense shame and self abuse for being a liar to both myself and others. She did however say that she was very uneducated on the matter, and wanted to get a better understanding of it all.My gender variance or that it evolves isn’t an issue for my wife but lying and dishonesty, keeping secrets would be a major problem for both of us. Again, speaking only for myself, the inclination arose long before I knew or understood sexuality or eroticism.

For some of us we look at clothes as just something that can be worn and we don’t care if a piece of clothes is designed for a man or a woman. There are varying motivations behind why men crossdress and they are not always or entirely driven by sexuality and eroticism – often that’s a part of it but not always. Let’s face it, when someone has a sexual kink they probably want to engage in that kink as much as possible and they likely want you to be INTO it, if you know what I mean. Over the years she has often wore my t-shirts, shirts , boxer's pjs but I've never really thought much of it. Marriage is nothing if not a contractual agreement and constant renegotiation in the face of change.However, this list is for our partners who are struggling with coming to terms with this side of us. Okay back to the story of what happens when you get caught with your hands in the cookie jar so to speak. As I grew a little older, I couldn’t really sneak into my sister’s room and from the internet discovered that I was actually a crossdresser who liked dressing up as a girl every now and then. Acknowledging that I have a sexual aversion to masculinity and that, even as I find her ‘tomboyishness’ sexy, I’d have a difficult time if my wife became butch and wanted to grow facial hair, doesn’t make me transphobic or homophobic.