And so if I can just release that, that little bit of irk first. That's where I'm going to get more emotional balance.

Dr. Tamara Rosier: You know, oh, I love, I loved that episode, by the way. I thought it was great episode. I, anytime a client brings like a Red Bull, Mountain Dew, whatever, any, any high caffeinated drink, I always point it out and I say, "Hey, you're self-medicating right now, which means we should probably have a talk about your meds. What's happening with your meds. Um, when, what are you thinking you need to drink this?"I just work differently. And so it's to, you know, I, I was convicted because I'm like, well, I can't reach everyone because I can only see so many clients per week. I really want to write this to people so that they know that their brain isn't broken. So a lot of times it was kind of like, this is sounds very sappy, but it was a letter to the clients I haven't met yet. Try to convince them you brain's not broken. Before we finish up. I also wanted to make sure we talked about, energy management because you've got the Solve-it grid in the book, which is fantastic. So we're not going to go specifically into that cause that's, as we talked about before, the podcast is very hard to visualize without having the visuals right in front of you. So, listeners are going to have to buy the book because it's fantastic and it's got this great tool in it. It's talks a lot about energy management, which is something I'm really interested in because I've really discovered how important following my energy path through the day was. Over the summer I got COVID and that was not great for me. I had about 30 minutes a day that I could be productive because I was just exhausted the rest of the day. And it really drilled home that you got to work when you can work. Can't just hope that you're scheduling your time, the right way. I kind of feel like we need extra credit for that. You know what I'm talking about? Like, it's like in high school, when you take honors classes or AP classes, you get more credits. So you can end up with a 4.5. I feel like we need that system for us. Like I did it and I have ADHD.

And so I'm familiar with what you're talking about. I'd like to add though. So the TikTokers, the ADHD TikTokers are saying, "Hey dude, the DSM is missing all of these things" and it's a democratic solution. To the authorities kind of ignoring ADHD. And the DSM is way behind in talking about ADHD. Russ Barkley talks about that quite a bit. Right? Dr. Tamara Rosier: I would love to encourage people to remember things will always take longer than they want to plan for. And that you will always either overestimate your energy or underestimate your energy. We usually don't get it just right. So just be aware of the time and the energy. William Curb: Yeah. I'm like, well, I guess, I guess the obvious one is 2 million. So wait until I do that's also doubling the goal is not- In Your Brain's Not Broken, Dr. Tamara Rosier applies her years of coaching others to explain how ADHD affects every aspect of your life so that you can finally understand why you think, feel, and act the way you do. The result? Practical tools that can dramatically improve your personal and professional life. William Curb: Yeah. I definitely see everyone with ADHD is just sat with that feeling of why can't I do it? What is wrong with me? And it is that other side of like people being like, what do they know about ADHD, but also I'm surprised what I still learn about ADHD.Dr. Tamara Rosier: Right. Well, especially given how the brain structure works, right? I mean, if we don't have reliable access to our prefrontal cortex, remember that's the part behind your forehead? i'll try to write a coherent review but i just wanna say i have learned so much about myself through this book. disclaimer: im not diagnosed with adhd but i do have most of the symptoms. im not tryna self diagnose myself but god, this book spoke to me on a whole new different level—like it was calling me out each time. If you see yourself in any of this story, there’s hope. I wrote You Brain’s Not Broken specifically for you—and for those you love. William Curb: We're having this conversation because if your book, your brain's not broken and I have to say, I love the title of it because it hits home for me, a lot of ways, I got to be reminded that it's not broken. I'm just not in the right space to use it. Dr. Rosier does a masterful job of giving language to the experience of being an adult with ADHD. She uses concrete, relatable examples to explain the difficulties adults with ADHD often experience and then provides practical strategies for successfully navigating these difficulties that can be easily adapted to fit a variety of circumstances. This is an excellent resource for adults with ADHD and for anyone who wants to better understand someone struggling with adult ADHD."

And for your listeners, the metaphor is your prefrontal cortex apart right behind your forehead usually works like a Butler, a calm Butler, saying, "Tamara, you left your keys here. For Tamara if you want to leave at this time, do this. It's almost like my Butler has a Siri voice. You know, it's like, this is just do these next thing. And so the Butler organizes us. It tells us don't get too upset about that. That's not a problem. We can work it out. And so it's a very reasonable calm butler. So they regulate how, how fast you can go in a go-kart. We don't have governs. And so we have no idea how fast we can go and we don't have any idea of speed limits What I discovered in Your Brain's Not Brokenis how entwined my emotions, and the energy that comes from them, are in everything I do! Even better, there's something I can do to take control. And now you can discover what you can do too!" And I say it almost every Friday and every Friday night, he's like, well, you've had a busy week, you know, you leave it all on the field during the week. I was like, yeah, I guess I did. Dr. Tamara Rosier: By the way, I was working with a client last week who was just recovering from COVID and she searched out the session by saying, you know, ADHD people shouldn't be allowed to get COVID.

William Curb: Yeah. I mean, that kind of reminds me of early on in the book where you were comparing ADHD to racing in a three-legged race. And it's just like, I just, I just got to work with you. I can't choose not to. If I just tried to drag you along, this is going to be a bad time for both of us.

William Curb: But it also sounds like you're then like, being like, Hey, it's time for the weekend. It's time to do the stuff I need to to help recover. Dr. Tamara Rosier: Yeah, it's really amazing. So something I hope it came out in the book because something I really wanted to point. Is for those of us who have ADHD. There are not a lot of great reasons why we should be succeeding at anything we do in the modern world. We're great hunter-gatherers. But in the modern world, there's, we're really on a handicap and yet look at us. We're everywhere, guys. Anytime. You know, we graduate from high school college, anytime we're doing anything that is good in the modern world.Dr. Tamara Rosier: Just work this into a habit. Oh, cool. Because guess what's going to happen. I'm going to forget. I have a habit and that's where I really thought my brain was broken. I couldn't remember, like everyone kept saying, well, just make a habit of it. Like cool story, bro. But "I forget" that I made a habit. I'm using air quotes for your listeners. I forget that that's supposed to be a habit. And it's funny because we forget to do that for other people. You know, the person could have cut you off because they were just, weren't paying attention. That's still doesn't make them an evil jerk. It makes them careless, still not an evil jerk, but we jumped to evil jerk must die! This is good. And because I didn't think I'd have done it perfectly enough. Like you, I just wanted to move on. William Curb: Yeah. I think that's a great point too. It's like, we, we want things to go with, like, just like. I can envision things going so well and they never go as well as I envisioned, because I don't think about everything that could be going on. It's like, oh, I'm going to sit down and write this. It's going to be perfect. Oh, I don't know what that word means. I need to stop and look that up. Oh, I thought I knew what that concept was, but maybe I don't. And so it's like, oh, there's all these little turns. I have to take that in and think about it.