Improve mental and physical health. Sex can burn fat, cause the brain to release endorphins, and drastically reduce anxiety. But while you might not have to worry about unwanted pregnancy at this age, it’s vital to protect yourself against sexually transmitted diseases. Designed purely for external stimulation, the smooth Pebble Massager has a range of vibrations to stimulate you and is covered in a soft-touch silicone. The elegant pebble shape fits perfectly in the palm of your hand whilst the tapered end is designed to target specific areas of your body. People in good health with a decent level of fitness are nearly twice as likely to be interested in sex as they grow older, and also more likely to report having a satisfying sex life, according to a study by the University of Chicago. The research found men in ‘very good’ health could expect to add seven years to their ‘sex life expectancy’, while women in the same position could add up to six.

Pelvic floor exercise for women: To identify the correct muscles, squeeze the ones you use to stop urine flow. Then sit or lie with knees slightly apart and slowly tighten these muscles as hard as you can. Hold for 10 seconds then relax. Repeat five times daily. I got married in June of last year. I was 22. I was severely damaged by purity culture (which did not come from my parents—they didn’t even realize those messages were being spread in the church/homeschool/social circles we were part of). Sex terrified me. I wanted to be excited, but I had internalized so many harmful messages and I was generally uneducated, so it was scary. I bought “The Good Girl’s Guide” a few months before my wedding, and I’m so, so grateful for it!! I absolutely devoured your blog and the book, and it gave me so much more confidence. My now-husband and I were finally able to talk about sex, and I was much less ashamed/shy about it. He asked if he could read this magical book, too. (Apparently he was impressed by my newfound confidence in the subject and wanted to know where it came from. 😂) Made our wedding night and beyond so much less scary for me! ☺️ And it’s really, really hard for sex to be good if you feel like your main identity is in being a virgin. I thought originally it would just be swapping the gendered chapters for more on orgasm, but as I read through the book I found that I now talk differently about just about everything–mental load; communication; obligation. So I ended up rewriting pretty much the entire thing! When you’re trying to tell how aroused a sexual partner is, listen to their words, don’t assume based on what their body is doing,” Mourikis advises.Esposito, K. et al. “Mediterranean Diet Improves Sexual Function in Women with Metabolic Syndrome,” International Journal of Impotence Research (2007) 19:486. White, JR. et al. “Enhanced Sexual Behavior in Exercising Men,” Archives of Sexual Behavior (1990) 19:193. Oral stimulation is a pivotal part of sex for many of us, particularly for women who are more likely to orgasm through oral stimulation versus penetrative stimulation. In fact, a recent survey showed that only 60% of us usually achieve orgasm during intercourse.

We spoke to sex and relationship expert Helen Scott about how to get to grips (so to speak) with talking about your fantasies out loud — and feel more comfortable with the language and the concept of phone sex in general.

Over the years, as I’ve listened more and done even more research, I knew that things had to change with The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex.

A lot of women are very responsive to a man’s voice during lovemaking,” Davidson says. “If a man has verbal facility and can entice a woman through his voice, that can become a powerful part of his repertoire. We share our tips which should make it easier to orgasm while receiving oral sex. They're all simple and easy to do, so you don't have to start taking up gymnastics in your spare time to achieve them! You’ve probably heard this before – but getting to know your body and what you like is one of the best ways to improve your sex life. Both Mourikis and Bryan agree on this point.