Dividing the world into masculine or feminine, decisive or emotional, feels not only archaic but ignorant.

And you can feel aligned with God when you silence the mind and become aware of the silent observer within you. The result of his work is a collapse of gender and polarity, and when we reduce people to “men are masculine, women are feminine” it downgrades us from curiosity to assumption. Some of the most eye opening experiences I’ve had have been bringing straight men out to gay bars to get hit on.A young woman tends to be less compromised by masculine layers of functional protection built up over years of need. And whether or not you believe each person has one or more purpose in life, it is admirable to abandon the distraction activities we all engage in to figure out how to use our gifts to truly make an impact. Deida underlines the importance of understanding that both men and women possess masculine and feminine energies. The mark of a true classic is that it becomes more relevant with the passage of time Twenty years ago, David Deida wrote The Way of the Superior Man share lessons on how a man can grow spiritually while passionately tussling with the challenges of women, work, and sexual desire, Today, men of all ages continue to struggle with these universal challenges, and the practical insights found in this book will help each one of us to give the gifts we were born to give.

At every Deida event there always seemed to be one woman who owned one too many pant-suits, and one man who just couldn’t scare anyone with his warrior face. You will wonder, “Why don’t you just tell me what you really want, instead of saying one thing and meaning another? Finally, there’s the reawakening of the ancient notion of male initiation – the idea that a male doesn’t simply become a man because he turns 21.There’s a whole section on how ejaculation is bad and cumming gives the power to your woman and makes her respect you less. Then because the impact is worse you want to see it less, so you remove yourself even more — and down and down we go. They always got special attention, and would inevitably end up in some process where David or one of his assistants would uncover the blocks they had to being more like the stereotype we were all expecting from their assigned gender. I’ve engaged in it myself, as well as utilising some aspects of it in my own 1-on-1 work and can affirm that it is indeed very powerful, challenging and healing.

In other words, his work helps those of us that are a bit confused allowing us to accelerate our growth and focus on other areas of knowledge.

If you’re a man reading this, you’ve undoubtedly asked yourself these questions—but you may not have had much luck answering them. It’s about welcoming things like beating our chests and howling at the moon, but not thinking that’s who we have to be because we were born with a Y chromosome. The other way is to “fuck” both to smithereens, to ravish them with your love unsheathed, to give your true gifts despite the constant tussle of woman and world, to smelt your authentic gifts in this friction of opposition and surrender, to thrust love from the freedom of your deep being even as your body and mind die blissfully through a crucifixion of inevitable pleasure and pain, attraction and repulsion, gain and loss.

It’s about challenging the assumptions about what it means to be a man — not so we can come up with new boxes and declare that “the truth”, but so we can be free to find our unique expression and know that it works for us, and may not work for others. But beneath the veneer of most woman is a wrathful goddess who will chop the head off a new age man. Through conscious breathing, you can release the fear and anxiety that accumulate in your body as tension.

Though you’re equal, you’re not the same; for your relationship to best serve you and your woman, you must support each other in the pursuit of your distinct priorities. Main areas of focus include masculine lifestyle design, character development, self-discipline, MMA, women, mind and body optimization, and more! He doesn’t engage with his community directly (outside of the handful of people who pay thousands of dollars to go to his retreats) so he misses the chance to see the impact his work has on the larger community of men and women who follow him. Become a Superior Man by learning to be authentic, to find and prioritize your purpose, to understand and fulfill the needs of your woman, to discipline your desires and insist on growth, to embrace and channel your attraction to the feminine, and to prioritize connection over pleasure.