Confusing Love With Obsession: When Being in Love Means Being in Control

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Learning more about the cause of the distrust and need to control is an important step towards the path of healing. It does not offer information or perspective from the viewpoint of an outsider or even of a person who knows someone in an addictive relationship but is not personally involved. He holds a PhD in Psychology from Northcentral University and teaches courses in human behavior and health sciences at American Military University. I also related to the feelings of withdrawal listed when the person you are obsessed with is gone from your life.

Relationally dependent persons may deny the end of the relationship or feel vengeful towards their partner or somebody who is involved in the breakup. The case studies are written in everyday, plain-speak and avoids all of the clinical jargon - which a lot of people appreciate. It occurs after the end of a relationship, and it is connected to an afflicted person feeling devastated and lost. Afflicted person may feel the need to be constantly present in a partner’s life by contacting them multiple times during the day and possibly following them or participating in the same activities.All in all, a new perspective showing the lives of people overcome with obsessive feelings is an interesting and important way of looking at the problem of love addiction. The purpose of this paper is to explore the main characters of this book, define the types of obsessive love proposed by the author and evaluate the knowledge this book can give to its readers.

The vision of a perfect couple, when two partners are equally committed to maintaining the relationship is displayed as a norm in many cultures. Relationally dependent individuals try to manipulate their partners through emotional abuse, money or other points of control. Well, mostly because of the high degree of control we see, usually exerted by one individual on another. The plots in both of those movies involve someone developing an unhealthy and even delusional attachment towards another. One side is suffering from obtrusive thoughts about his or her partner and the relationship, while the other side is growing weary from excessive attention.And If you have had a man cheat on you in the past, the issue of trust becomes understandably compounded. In the book Confusing Love with Obsession, Moore (2010) introduces the Obsessive Love Wheel, a chart that displays various stages or types of obsessive love. The person who suffers from obsessive love begins to question their partner’s fidelity, possibly suspecting or accusing him or her of adultery. This is where you see the ugliness kick in with controlling behaviors, like making a person continually account for their whereabouts, monitoring their every move and otherwise not trusting them.