Die Lebensgeschichten dieser Frauen ist sehr interessant gewesen, sind sehr individuell gewesen und gleichzeitig sprechen sie viele anderen Frauen an, die unter gleichen oder ähnlichen Problemen leiden und daran zu kämpfen haben. Your body scent has a complicated physiology influenced by what you eat, how you exercise, how much you sleep and hydrate, how much you sweat, and what your hormone levels are. This means your natural scent is a pretty informative signal of your overall health." Getting ahead isn’t always on a special characteristic but it’s becoming more pushed and that’s unfair to everyone who earns the merit the right way.

From a leading psychotherapist comes an electrifying examination into female desire told through the stories of seven very different women. She invites us women to embrace our desires, invokes kindness and sympathy towards ourselves, questions what we truly want from life, how we can claim it, while also inspiring us to uplift ourselves by overcoming any societal/familial barriers. Find good mating markets, women don’t compare you against all the men in the world, they compare you to the other men they have access to.

I wish she'd followed it up with something like: Having established that women, as responsible adults, should have control over their own bodies, are we not also therefore responsible enough to be expected to make the link between sex and pregnancy? And the link between alcohol, the loss of inhibition, and the impairment of judgement (and memory)? And is it unreasonable to expect a responsible woman to notice she is pregnant before, say, the better part of half a year has elapsed? Ignore all the bullsh*t advice that you have to 'become an alpha' to get women, that if you just get fierce, domineering, and exploitative, everyone will love you and the world will be yours. That advice is totally ineffective and wrong. Being known in your group (popular), attracting attention by delivering value (high-status), and provoking respect (prestigious) within your social group are the core of social proofs in our species, so that’s what you should focus on." Having sought the approval of each of her disguised clients, she wrote a chapter on each, written in intimate, compassionate, narrative non-fiction. There is nothing clinical in the writing style, yet Chung weaves her professional opinions and considerations through the narrative, allowing us a glimpse into the tenets of psychotherapy and the pathways to healing. I am glad they recognised that "Taekwondo is as effective as basketball moves in a real fight" (p 157). No relevance, I just agree with the observation. She explains how as a therapist, she deeply get affected by the feelings of her patients, how she works on slowly building trust, confidence and how with time, this connection and collaboration between them blossoms, kindling compassion, acceptance, growth and consideration that they are only human.

Through the profound and moving stories of seven very different women, Maxine Mei-Fung Chung sheds light on our most fundamental needs and desires. From a young bride-to-be struggling to accept her sexuality, to a mother grappling with questions of identity and belonging, and a woman learning to heal after years of trauma, What Women Want is an electrifying and deeply intimate exploration into the inner lives of women. Does he carry good genes? “the ultimate evolutionary fantasy is finding a new male lover who has awesome traits that testify to his great genetic quality, who is from a strange new tribe that offers genetic innovations unavailable domestically, and who is worth getting pregnant with tonight even if he gets killed in battle tomorrow.” Only it stops there. Whelan doesn't examine the logical endpoint of her position. indeed she even laments the 20-week limit in some country or other.I am of course not the target market for this book, but I was very curious after reading about it at http://jakeseliger.com/2015/09/23/bri... and considering essays like http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/... which made me want to be more compassionate towards lonely, awkward young men who may want to do the right thing but don't have any guides that aren't douches. I mean, I do think Nice Guy syndrome is totally a thing, but maybe outside of religious institutions, I can see how there isn't much information out there to concretely teach young heterosexual men how to become better people, if they didn't figure it out on their own or have good role models around. Hollywood romantic comedies and Hallmark greeting cards have convinced much of our culture that the six most romantic words a man can say to a woman are 'I love you' and 'I am sorry.' This is bullsh*t. In fact, if you look at actual behavior and mate choice, those six words are 'Don’t worry honey, I got this'—which means: we face a real problem together as a couple, but I can totally handle it as a man. I’m effective. Females throughout nature favor effective males...Women are attracted to physical effectiveness, not physical narcissism." When assessing a mating market, pay attention to the quality of men who are your rivals as well as the women present there. You're not being measured against all men on Earth, just those you're in relative proximity to. In Chapter 3, Whelan makes much of a Californian law, passed in 2014, which, according to her, defines all sexual intercourse as rape unless the other person has specifically verbalised their agreement before the event. ‘This means,’ she states, ‘that, legally, someone who has not acquired affirmative consent – that is got the other person to say, ‘Yes, I’m into this’, out loud, before any action – is a potential rapist’ (p. 65). In fact, the reality is far from this absurd caricature. The law in question (Senate Bill No. 967, chapter 748) requires the governing boards of all state-funded universities and colleges to adopt, in their policies concerning sexual assault, a standard of affirmative consent, defined as being ‘conscious and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity’ which ‘must be ongoing throughout a sexual activity and can be revoked at any time’. This does not, as Whelan might have us believe, mean that the other party to the activity must be repeatedly calling out ‘yes’ throughout the encounter (though wouldn’t it be nice if that were always so!). It is clear that affirmative consent can be indicated either by words or by actions: see for example the similar law adopted by New York State in 2015 which specifies that affirmative consent ‘can be given by words or actions, as long as those words or actions create clear permission regarding willingness to engage in the sexual activity.’ Does Whelan really have a problem with university authorities treating as rape an act of intercourse during which one party offered no indication whatsoever, by either sounds or movements, that she was a willing participant in what was going on?

Obviously, the book isn't completely flawless. The chapter where they discuss dressing better is good but it really only covers the basics (fair enough since style changes). I also started to get the sneaking suspicion that CrossFit funded the writers or something. Apparently, we're all going to be doing CrossFit and eating Paleo as a means to meet women (and yes the implication isn't lost on me). So in these areas the book gives you more of a general direction but it is still up to you to find the resources that provide more information on what will work for you. The use of the word "mate" throughout gets really weird after a while but this is obviously minor. BUT the point of conversation is not the content. It is to signal underlying traits (intelligence, mental stability, kindness, empathy) as well as being the process of connection. I realized what it takes for a therapist to be successful – an abundance of patience, unimaginable adaptability and humongous amounts of empathy. While tending to a patient’s emotional well-being, I also discovered that a therapist undergoes a transformation of his/her own!The only effective strategy for gaining real confidence is to develop skills and demonstrate performance of those skills. Die Geschichte wird aus der Sicht der Psychotherapeutin, die auch gleichzeitig die Autorin dieses Buches ist, erzählt.

Social proof is not superficial. For hypersocial animals like us, it’s about as deep a signal of personal value as anything gets. Remember, you are a male stranger. You represent a danger to her, and the collective opinion of your social network gives a woman a huge amount of information about your traits, strengths, virtues, and social skills that she would otherwise find out only by taking the risks of getting to know you—a male stranger...Your social proof is really just the answer to one key question: does this guy add value to people’s lives?" The short become the best version of yourself possible, then show it off. It sounds simple, but it's not. If it were, Tinder would just be the stuff you use to start a fire. Becoming your best self requires honesty, self-awareness, hard work and a little help.A very fun, funny, and potentially useful book for many [young] men to read, but of very mixed quality. Women generally don't reject men explicitly because of the very real risks they face from publicly humiliating their suitors. They're just trying to reduce the risk of provoking harassment or stalking or violent retaliation. Beneath a few standard, and a couple of interesting, observations, lurks a subtext: women are entitled to abortion on demand because, as responsible adults, we should have autonomy over our own bodies.