I have also had a couple of women I know who have been the main bread winner who have gone on to have affairs. One of them had the attitude that as she was doing all the hard work then she was entitled to enjoy the spoils of the status of being the dominant partner in the marriage. He knew that she was seeing someone else but didn’t do anything about it and I think that diminished him even more in her eyes.

Now, She expects me to be a responsible adult who is able to self task and achieve the goals that support Her. Do I answer to Her at the end of the day? Yes of course I do. Do I worship Her? Absolutely In my discussion with, Joey, I kind of redefined that as I like passionate males, and that passion can cross over to Alpha/dominate traits. So, even though my alpha husband’s biology is changing to more of a beta personality, he is very passionate in the bedroom and can sometimes take me in an Alpha way. I prefer a man to practice semen retention, follow my ejaculation schedule and embrace his true nature that flows from that.

Chastity devices are an ideal way for partners to tease each other. What’s more, they achieve arousal and orgasm denial, which is the main goal of chastity. That was three years ago. I am happier than I have ever been, with my busy man-servant. Every single girlfriend has asked me how I changed my husband overnight. I tell them the truth: I wrote up a contract and he signed it and we are living by it.

Switching roles is an ideal way to walk a mile in your partner’s shoes. Even if their role isn’t something you’d necessarily enjoy, it will give you an insight into their mind and feelings. Try Chastity Belts and Devices Other, lighter offenses are classically punished by denial of orgasm, tease & denial, ruined orgasm and humiliating things. And there are a number of other penalties as well. An essay about adult punishment in female led relationships OR every relationship has rules. This is how to enforce them I’ve outlined a slew of reasons that might make you reconsider making such a massive shift in your relationship. This is a change that will almost certainly upset the dynamic that you’ve grown accustomed to. What sort of rules can you put in place before making a shift to help prevent resentment? What can you do to ensure that he feels sexy, respected and desired? Set Expectations Writing down goals and expectations is the best way to ensure that you reach your goals. While this isn’t a legally binding contract, its intention is to set expectations for your house husband. Here is an example of some things that you might include on your written agreement.

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I approach the topic as someone who could enjoy be “kept” in a variety of ways that might be construed, would be happy to serve my wife and her friends at a social gathering and would find a kinky delight in posing for a little drawing or painting session that they might (but certainly won’t) engineer.

Also somewhere in this I spoke about how I was not good at reading hints and that I liked to know exactly what I was doing right or wrong. I mentioned that I would like her to help me be better by spanking me but she was not enthusiastic about that. Her comment being that I was not a child and she did not want to treat me as a child.I had my reservations about the choice, you kind of covered those. My wife does occasionally have to defend my position, but she does it in a way where the questioning individual is slightly jealous of my position. I think my biggest concern was worth. When I worked I had a tangible value, and while our incomes weren’t equal our effort was. How would that change when she would have to trudge into an office and sees me still in PJs making the kids breakfast? Or, how would I feel when she wasn’t home for dinner for most week nights because of client events in a male dominated industry? One of these scenarios has proven easy to handle the other less so. All errands, childcare transportation, soccer practice, meals must be completed at their expected times. Children should be bathed and ready for bed before dinner. Sometimes, it’s good to go into something blind and find your own way of doing things. However, with chastity, we advise you to do some heavy research. We all know that abstaining from orgasms can improve our sex life because it builds up excitement, and there’s also an element of suspense. However, chastity includes much more than that. It is not acceptable to masturbate in any way unless you ask for permission and I grant permission for you to do so. Home repair and special projects should be outlined and specific start and end dates should be provided. Costs of the items needed should also be included so your debit card can be loaded with the appropriate funds.

He was now in chastity for much of the time. I noticed an immediate change in him. He was more docile; he was more obedient and listened carefully. He learned not to interrupt me (or his key holder). I got more interested in the device and used it for small humiliations. But he loved humiliation, so it was a mutual feeling. I found myself unemployed (not now) because of COVID. On top of that were past things in my life that was beginning to come to the surface in the form of anxiety and depression. With COVID that anxiety and depression broke through, I had no idea what to do as I had never experienced either. He had to wear the device anytime that I was going on a date regardless of what his key holder allowed. I made it explicit that I would not promise that I would keep his secret from my dates. However, at first I did keep the device secret. That would change later. Hi Yoga Girl, I am learning a lot from and really excited by your blog. I am an bi-gender male-bodied person who identifies in the middle range between female and male. As I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten more and more disenchanted with and opposed to patriarchy and all forms of male supremacy. Men have made such a mess of the world, and while there have been good things they’ve contributed as well, there are so many signs that their rule is in its last stages. I think female leadership of the family and society is not the only good for women but also is the best and only way to end patriarchy. Now, you have shown me how it is also good for males. The semen retention way is the best way to reconcile the two sexes. Fast forward a bit and I had asked her to spank me in regard to it excited me. More discussions that kind of brought out my desires to look after her. She did whip me a few times and then there was a break. She said she found it wrong to hurt someone. I said things like other people do it and that it helped me stay on a submissive headspace and so on. So now she whips me but not as punishment but as a reward and it’s her way of supporting me. She will say I am doing this for you. On the detail, when I am to be whipped, she will tell me to go and get ready. I have to get the ropes and toe them to the corners of the bed. I then remove my clothes and lie spread eagle and she ties me down and gags me because we both know I am too weak to endure on my own. At this stage I am questioning in my own mind if I am just too weird. Then she whips me. It’s insanely painful and I am totally focused on surviving the pain. Then it’s over.

There are some things you might have to deal with at first in this process. As he’s not used to retaining, he might have blue balls, but that will go away in time. His body will just reabsorb his semen. I can ride him every day for five days, put his Lingam (phallus) away in my purse after each use without release and no more cases of blue balls. It’s just something to be aware of. He will complain about it. I’m really starting to see semen retention as his rite of passage to becoming a man. I marvel at how it’s changed his biology to reveal the true man that he is inside. The man that’s happy to serve cleaning the kitchen, and the lover that’s always ready with a steel hard Lingam to pump me to 18 orgasms, and then ask if he can provide me with 9 more. Another fringe benefit is that he actually measures bigger practicing semen retention for close to a year. It’s probably due to just heightened constant arousal. He also has the penis of a 16 year old having erections on and off throughout the day.