She reflects on how same-sex dating can easily become blurred too. “As women, you're almost expected to be okay with being friends, but actually you're getting your heart broken. If someone asks 'do you want to be friends?' and you know you don't because you know deep down you secretly hope to sleep together again, don’t do that and maintain that boundary.” Interessant finde ich auch den Wechsel zwischen den verschiedenen Stilarten, wie er hier stattfand. Manche Stellen sind wie ein normaler Roman geschrieben, manche wie ein Drehbuch, vieles auch in Form von Postings mit den entsprechenden Kommentaren oder Chatverläufe. Ich mochte das, ist aber sicher nicht für alle was.

Journalist Moya Lothian-McClean said: “I’m still thinking about Florence Given’s prose… Once again, publishers and editors involved in that… have a word with yourselves.” And I couldn’t have put it better myself, really. Related stories recommended by this writer: Florence Given won a legion of fans with her debut book, Women Don't Owe You Pretty, thanks to its unique illustrations and empowering message, encouraging women across the world, of all generations, to recognise their worth.This steers our chat onto the standards we all face every single day and how they can push us into building a ‘close to perfect’ facade online (or at least try to, as after all there’s no such thing as ‘perfect’). “You create a standard for yourself on social media that's above the standards we already have from the patriarchy, and trying to be beautiful to get by in this world,” Florence says thoughtfully. “More people are living this split life [between who you want to be and who you currently are] to the point we don't even question it anymore, we just know that that's the way it is. And still we feel shit about it. We know everything is curated, but it still hurts to see people doing better than us, or who are happier in areas that we aren't.” However, I’d say this book was a bit confused about what it wanted to do. It was almost like two books in one: the first book describing Eartha’s sexual awakening as a bisexual woman, breaking the cycle of abusive relationships in her family; while the second narrative focuses on her journey on social media and the perils of the internet. There were also these parts called the “director’s notes” where the narrator panned out a camera on Eartha, or the situation unfolding, which I didn’t think worked that well. This is not the queer affirming book it claims to be. This is a book doused in queer stereotypes and harmful language. As a bisexual woman I found it littered with biphobia and severe problems around identity, femininity, masculinity and many issues catered towards our non binary siblings too. Her's Women of the Year 2019: From politics and culture to sport, we raise a glass to the female leaders who have inspired us this year". Her.ie. 30 December 2019 . Retrieved 30 January 2020.

There are parts of this book that were so ridiculous that it made me angry (why had she never heard of an INCEL? I know that biphobia is a thing but why are people acting like it's so ALIEN?).

For a seemingly sex-positive book, it’s FILLED with innuendos

They said: “It’s really, really similar. A lot of the ideas, a lot of the phrases. It’s all there. A lot of it is copied or reworded.” As a queer woman in the public eye, dating has evolved and changed with her success too. But how much of her own dating experience is mirrored in her new book? “I've had many women ghost me before,” she admits. “You start to protect your ego and identity. For a while I'd almost projected my past onto people that were completely innocent and assumed they were going to do what all of the others did. But I’ve learned to treat people as an individual.”