This toy was my introduction to clit pumps, and I'm so glad it was, because its simple design makes it easy for even total beginners to experiment with the pleasures of clit suction. Clit pumps are especially good for people who struggle with arousal, because they bring blood flow to the area, increasing excitement and sensitivity, but their positive effects can be enjoyed by anyone with a clit. Just make sure to use lube and start slow and gentle. To up the ante, you can hold a vibrator against the pump, and the vibrations will transmit through the whole area. And if you don’t like the sensation of a new toy the very first time you use it, don’t give up on it just yet. “The first time we try anything, we’re doing what we call spectatoring, which is observing ourselves, how it’s going, what we thought, what our partner thought. We’re in our heads and not so much in the experience,” says Fleming. “So try, try again.” On orgasm misconception and dildo method: Thread: Opening Pandora's Box....Or How I Couldn't Stop Coming Even if squirting isn’t your goal, the Pure Wand is still an awesome toy to add to your collection. It has two differently sized ends, one pretty small (less than an inch) and one larger (about one and a half inches), which makes it a good toy for both people who haven’t played with penetration much and for those who like penetration a lot. "If you’re looking to explore penetration again, the small side is very small, and it can create the same stretching effect as with dilators," explains DiMartino. You can work your way up from the smaller side to the larger side. On using a vibrating massager (warning: somewhat unrealistic expectations of ease of orgasm): Thread: Beginner's Guide to Prostate Play

Pros: Offers both clitoral stimulation and G-spot vibration at once; each function can be controlled separately; strong, rumbly vibrations; 14 intensity levels and 10 vibration patterns; comes with two differently-sized stimulator heads to fit a range of clitoris sizes; waterproof It’s incredibly well-designed. For G-spot stimulation, you’ll find that the curve of the Wand perfectly places the ends right where they feel best. The weight helps it deliver a ton of pressure. The G-spot needs intense stimulation, and boy does the Wand deliver. You can try adding clitoral stimulation with a vibrator or your fingers for an orgasm that may require peeling you off the ceiling. Ease of Use: 3.5 / 5 | Durability: 3.5 / 5 | Fun Factor: 4 / 5 | Features: 4.5 / 5 | Value: 4 / 5 | Overall Rating: 3.9 / 5 On the "Balance Ball" technique: Thread: My Hands Free Njoy Pure Wand technique that reliably leads to Super-O Insertable vibrators: Internal erogenous zones like the G-spot can enjoy vibration too! An insertable vibrator will have a longer shaft than a clitoral vibe, and may have an upward curve that aims for the G-spot. You can use an internal vibrator on its own, or pair it with a clitoral toy for explosive blended orgasms.How to Use: Lay down the Throw on your bed (or wherever else) before masturbating or having sex. When you’re done, you can machine-wash it. Anal toys: Although cisgender women don’t have prostates, there are still a lot of nerve endings in and around the anus that make it a pleasurable area for many women. Butt plugs, anal beads, and anal vibrators are just some of the options available. Ever wanted to penetrate someone with your balls? Frankly, probably not, but hey, guess what—you can! The Balldo basically turns your balls into a dildo, encasing them in a silicone sheath you can slide inside your partner's vagina or butt. There are openings on either side of the Balldo, so your balls will be stroked on every thrust. Some users—including my partner, when we tested this toy—have reported being able to have "ballgasms," i.e. climaxes from balls stimulation alone. Who knows whether "ballsex" will ever become a widespread practice, but if you're curious about it, this is the one and only toy I'm aware of that makes it possible! As with all Njoy toys, the sleek stainless steel design of the Pure Wand means it can be used with silicone, water or oil based lubricants and can be cleaned easily with specialist anti-bac cleaners or warm soapy water. Women who want stronger and longer orgasms. I do a lot of orgasm coaching with women, and a number of my clients complain that their orgasms are disappointingly weak. The Wand delivers some truly outstanding G-spot stimulation that leads to powerful and extended orgasms. Seriously, you will want to give it a standing ovation after you use it.

Anyone who appreciates good design. The Wand is so gorgeous, it wouldn’t look out of place as a paperweight in a fancy office. The Final Verdict Pros: Very powerful vibrations; eight vibration speeds; double-weighted head for extra rumbliness; luxurious metal construction; LED-lighted buttons for easier use in the dark Pros: Allows you to penetrate your partner with your balls, potentially creating new and unique sensations for both of you; doesn’t require an erection

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The design: The exaggerated curve of the Pure Wand, combined with its bulbous ends, basically makes this toy a magnet for internal orgasms. "I’ve taken this toy on [sex] dates and had friends try it," says DiMartino. "It’s the cause of a lot of people’s first internal orgasm."

Ease of Use: 3 / 5 | Durability: 4.5 / 5 | Fun Factor: 3.5 / 5 | Features: 4.5 / 5 | Value: 3 / 5 | Overall Rating: 3.7 / 5 Whip out that new toy when you’re actually turned on (and not as a way to turn yourself on). “Think of it as foreplay,” Fleming says. “If you want to build up reception to a new toy, start off when you’re already highly aroused. The research is clear that people tend to be more open and receptive when already aroused.” How to Use: Press the button on the toy to turn it on, and use the same button to cycle through its vibration modes. You can also control it using the included remote or the We-Connect app. Apply water-based lubricant before slipping the G-spot arm of the toy inside. If you ask us, the best sex toys on the market today are right up there with fire and the wheel in terms of humanity's greatest inventions. Go ahead, laugh: but what is technology supposed to do besides make our lives easier and more pleasant? And let's be honest, what's more pleasant than a toe-curling orgasm?This luxe toy comes highly recommended by Dr. Jessica O'Reilly, a sexologist and sex & relationships expert for Lovehoney. "The Womanizer Duo offers an alternative to simple vibrations, as the outer arm stimulates the head of the clitoris with pleasure-air technology that uses tiny bursts of air to create a suction-like sensation over the clitoral head," she explains. "The inner arm curves upward against the G-spot to provide vibrations, and each function can be controlled individually." Basically, if you want to overload your clit and G-spot with pleasure, this toy is one of the best and fanciest ways to do it! Ease of Use: 5 / 5 | Durability: 4 / 5 | Fun Factor: 5 / 5 | Features: 4 / 5 | Value: 4 / 5 | Overall Rating: 4.4 / 5 Pros: Soft “micro-velvet” fabric; inner moisture barrier to prevent soaking your bed; machine-washable; available in multiple sizes; discreet appearance

On the sensations and "dynamics", rewiring, and mindset: Thread: Everything I know, Many Years Experience as a Prostatic Fanatic and the Best Advice I can Give (+AMA!)How to Use: Use the power button to turn the toy on or off, and the “+” and “–” buttons to adjust its intensity. If desired, apply water-based lube to the head of the wand before using. Women who want to learn how to squirt. The Wand has a reputation for inducing squirting, even in women who have never squirted before. Squirting seems to be all the rage these days, and there’s a good chance this baby can get you there. Pros: Affordable; attaches easily to any forward-facing bathtub spout; great for travel. Masturbating with water is all-natural, hygienic, usually non-irritating, and requires no batteries or power source While nothing can be more subjective than an opinion on a sex toy, the efficacy of this legendary device designed to make it rain orgasms has actually been proven by science. A 2008 study found that over 93 percent of a group of 500 chronic anorgasmic women—meaning women with a persistent inability to climax—could reach orgasm using the Magic Wand. That finding, plus the consensus view of very happy magic wand owners I’ve spoken with over the years is what led me to invest in my very own Hitachi magic wand in 2012. There are a lot of ways to go about prostate play, and your process will vary depending on your preferences and goals. Because so many different methods exist, it's impossible to create a single, in-depth guide on how to go about each session—you'll need to find a way that works for you, your toy, and your time. Here are some things to get you started.