You see, Jude was conceived by another mother – not physically, but in every other sense of the way, a completely different person. You’ve got What to Expect When You’re Expecting, but where do you go for a pregnancy guide when you’ve been pregnant before, and didn’t get to come home with a baby? For the nearly 2.6 million women worldwide every year who lose a baby to miscarriage, stillbirth, and early neonatal loss, this is the pregnancy guide for you. Joy at the End of the Rainbow: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Loss by Amanda Ross-White gives you a month-by-month survival guide to a pregnancy that is different from the others. If you’re worried and concerned about losing another baby, but also joyful and cautiously excited about what is to come, this book will give you solid medical information tailored to your very real concerns! Be kind to yourself. You have been through a traumatic experience and it is natural to feel overwhelmed by emotions and anxiety. Getting extra support and help with this can make a big difference. What you need during this time is not a book offering easy answers. You need a safe place to help you navigate tough issues, such as

A very supportive community has built up over the last few years around pregnancy loss. We have put together a list of blogs, online communities and social media accounts from people who have suffered pregnancy loss or preterm birth. All write movingly about their experiences of loss, life after loss and, in some cases, pregnancy and pregnancy/parenting after loss. Our first daughter died when I was 4.5 months pregnant, and I'm currently 4 months pregnant with a son. As some of the other writers have mentioned, it's true that some of the medical information in this book could use updating, but the medical information is not why I'm giving it five stars -- from the moment I opened the book, I felt like Carol Lanham was in my head. It was exactly what I needed when feeling crazy, anxious, and overwhelmed in my second pregnancy. It's a fabulous resource when you want some insight on the experience of pregnancy after a loss, and you need to know that the things you're feeling are normal.A well presented book aiming to give potential parents full and clear information needed before conception and during the vital first weeks of pregnancy. Contains three main sections: Information relating to the mother, father and conception. It also contains a section on miscarriage. Pregnancy after a loss can be a time of great emotional upheaval—but also, a time of healing and hope. With this sensible, sensitive guide, women can put their minds at ease—and learn to look forward to the future as they make peace with the past. Please note that the content of the following books do not necessarily express the opinions of the Miscarriage Association. Most books should be available from good bookshops and often through the internet. Books marked out of print may be available online or through your library.

In her heart-wrenching memoir, LAILA Held for a Moment, Leah Mele-Bazaz shares her experience with the devastation of stillbirth. Her inspiring journey from loss and anguish to newfound hope and healing shows there’s a way to live when our children are no longer with us. I also think she did a great job of making sure that many different perspectives were represented -- she includes interviews of women who experienced one or more miscarriages, stillbirths, neonatal deaths, and crucially for me, second trimester losses. I've found that second trimester losses tend to be misunderstood and underrepresented even in literature about pregnancy loss -- when people talk about miscarriage they are nearly always talking about first trimester miscarriage (since that's overwhelmingly the most common sort) and when they talk about stillbirth they are nearly always talking about full term stillbirth (I've been uncomfortable talking about our loss as a stillbirth because it seems presumptuous given the commonly understood meaning). While second trimester miscarriage shares similarities with both, I really feel that it's a different beast in many ways -- not easier, not harder, just different. Carol Lanham did such a wonderful job of balancing and discussing perspectives from the full range of pregnancy loss experiences that she paints a very rich tapestry of the range of emotions and reactions you might experience at different stages of a subsequent pregnancy. Her book has given me some great ideas for surviving the rest of this pregnancy, and has helped me anticipate issues that I might encounter in later stages.Glowing with riveting and gorgeous prose, Expecting Sunshine chronicles the anticipation and anxiety of expecting a baby while still grieving for the child that came before—enveloping readers with insightful observations on grief and healing, life and death, and the incredible power of a mother’s love. When my son was stillborn, I couldn’t find anything to read about the mum’s personal experiences and what to expect... I needed something real, something I could relate to." It is natural to feel this way. It is ok to feel this way. It is ok to be happy and anxious at the same time. It is also exhausting to feel this way.