Apply pressure just above the mons and notice what you feel: The pubic mons is the area just above the natural pubic hairline.

Add a drizzle of massage oil to the palm of your hand and vigorously rub your hands together (this warms the oil). Then proceed to coat the chest with oil, spreading it everywhere you'd like to caress. Follow up with a gentle massage, varying between using your fingertips to your whole palm to awaken the skin. Slowly move closer and closer to the nipples to increase the intensity. Guide them in the right direction: When your partner's hand is in place, offer real-time guidance in response to how it feels, and change up the pressure and positioning in response to this. This could be just on the outside or during penetrative sex.Penguin Time and Compass Points (Pleasure Prompts #8 and #13): On passion, play, praise, and personal identity. (Chapters 5 and 9) If you want to make breast play a regular course in your sex menu, talk to your partner about your desires and how you’d like to play with them together. Wilde points out that even if your partner isn’t playing with your breasts, you can also play with them yourself during partnered sex. In fact, this is one of her favourite ways to introduce breast play to a partner. Individual or paired Pleasure Prompts can also be used to anchor individual writing workshops or discussions. Popular pairings include:

In between massaging and squeezing, trace your areola without touching your nipples. This will help build up anticipation. Scientific evidence highlights the role of imagining sexual stimulation and how this can increase the likelihood of reaching an orgasm. Communicate What was fundamental to brown's self-connection was deep acceptance of her body, a shift that took time. Pleasure Activism is an invitation to know ourselves and be in conversation with the desire of our lustful imaginations... [I]t makes our personal liberation irresistible." Although your mouth might not feel like an option during solo sex, there are ways to utilise it during solo breast play as well. Try applying lube to your breasts and blow on the lubed up area," he adds. This can create a really intense sensation, especially if you use lubes with tingly sensations.Basically, if you’re not prioritising breasts and chests in your sex, you’re limiting your own pleasure. Can you orgasm from breast play? Pleasure Activism is at heart a deeply personal collection of poems, interviews, artwork, and reflections curated and written by Brown to maximize pleasure and joy within our lives while also reducing trauma-induced pain, guilt, and shame."

Having said all of this, breast and nipple play is definitely not only for people with vulvas. Jess Wilde, sex expert at the online shop So Divine, says it's common that penis owners overlook chest play, thinking it's not for them. "This is a myth, and many people with penises find chest and nipple play extremely enjoyable." adrienne maree brown...continues to stake her claim as one of our most critical thinkers and strategists by intentionally combining the power of story-telling with practical applications to help readers conjure their own definition of pleasure and how it is inextricably linked to every part of our existence.” As with any other sexual act, communication is key. Let a partner know about preferences for sensations that are softer or more intense, such as from pinching, biting, or the use of toys. Maintaining communication throughout can help ensure that everyone is enjoying the experience. Stimulate multiple body parts A Time in Your Life (Pleasure Prompt #2): Write about a time in your life when writing gave you pleasure. (10 minutes; pp 18-19)Ramp up the pleasure by pinching your nipples. A pinch will send a rush of sensation throughout your body. The harder the pinch, the better — but play around with pressure to find out what feels best to you.