Also, domestic discipline participants often sign a contract before being involved in this kind of relationship. It serves as guidance for both parties on what the rules are and which punishments will follow if these rules are broken. The husband will usually outline a wife discipline program that she has to agree to. Consent is a must for both BDSM and adult domestic discipline relationships. Domestic discipline punishments For additional embarrassment/complexity for "time out" or corner time, consider a brown paper bag over his head, or a dunce's cap.

If, however, you have been slow to obey or haven’t taken your spanking well, then I will ask you to draw two mare cards. The first will tell us how many minutes of corner time there will be between spankings and the second card will determine the implement and number of swats for the next spanking in the same way that it was done for the first spanking. If the husband has been mildly bratty or wilful, announce some unexpected corner time just as his favourite TV programme is starting. Switch off the TV and send him to his corner, to underline that the Wife is in charge and he will learn to do as he's told, when he's told. I can tell you from a husband's point of view that this combination of corner time and missing out is really miserable, but very effective in teaching him who is in control.

Corner time is usually used as a punishment for childish behaviour so a pacifier is very appropriate. I've read a lot of comments from women in DD relationships that express their resistance to corner time. Usually the reason given is that it's boring or that they'd get impatient and restless if they had to spend more than a few minutes there. And yes, it's certainly not as glamorous or dramatic or even sexual as a spanking is. The power of corner time is more subtle and nuanced, and it's buried deep in the hidden, personal stillness of our hearts. When the new discipline code is in place and everyone has become well-acquainted with the house rules and the routines and procedures by which those rules are upheld, then the improvement in the atmosphere within the family home will become apparent. Parents will feel that righteous sense of empowerment that comes with their newfound roles as loving disciplinarians of their 18 year old daughters.

The stern Headmistress who is displeased with your antics at school, and drags you into her office for a proper thrashing This is my version of a spanking that is given to a misbehaving lady when the offense is something that is extremely bad, Examples, but, not limited to, are; acting in a haughty/arrogant manner to driving while intoxicated, or otherwise acting in a manner that is detrimental to her health/well being, or that of others. I was terrified of having anyone know that I was being sparked and she said if I violated rules with other present that she would take me someplace and blister me even if others could hear. I suspect a big part of the reason corner time works so well to calm, center and relax me is that it's mandatory. All of the other techniques -- meditation, yoga, etc. -- are voluntary. I can stop whenever I want to. And because I have an extremely short attention span and because I have have a very hard time not fidgeting or moving around, I generally stop way before traditional methods like meditation have a chance to work. In our relationship, mandatory corner time follows every spanking. Depending on how much time we have, the seriousness of the offense and my attitude preceding it, corner time generally lasts at least 20 minutes, sometimes an hour, and occasionally longer for a more serious misbehavior.They grew in intensity with each slow step until they paused behind her. Sara’s breath caught as she felt Jacob’s hands wrap around her torso. His rough fingers grasped the waistline of her jeans and turned her around to face him. In domestic discipline spanking is split into spanking as punishment and maintenance spanking. A certain number of spanks can be used as punishment for bad behavior. This includes spanking with a hand, paddle, hairbrush, or any other item. As soon as the punishment is administered, the mistake is forgiven and doesn’t require any more discussion or punishment. It’s different from maintenance spanking - it is done at a predetermined time on a regular basis to reaffirm the couple’s roles and power exchange. Other implements we have used since then include freshly cut switches from the garden and birch twigs tied together, which I can use as an alternative to the hairbrush, when I have Melanie in position over my knee. More recently Melanie has expressed an interest in the French martinet – which is a little multi-thong whip that was traditionally used for the discipline of girls in France. Melanie has asked her Dad if he can make one in his workshop, so I’m sure that an elegant martinet will be added to our collection of disciplinary implements in the near future. So you can see that we do have plenty of options which allow us to provide our daughter with a variety of chastisements, which she will find as memorable as they are effective. Answer: HELL YES they hurt! I can understand how the term “consensual” might lead one to believe that I consent only up to the point where it really starts becoming painful, then I can opt out citing I no longer consent to the spanking/pain. But what I’ve consented to (and continue to consent to), are real consequences by way of real domestic discipline spankings from my wife. The fact that I take what is given, is consenting on my part because I’m never tied or restrained in any way. So I COULD stand up and stop it at any time and say, “I don’t want to take this anymore”. But the moment I do that, then it isn’t a real spanking, is it? Ah well... the good part about being separated from my partner (again!) is that I have lots of opportunity to consider what I miss most about DD (Domestic Discipline) when we're not together.

So that first six months was very much a period of adjustment for our daughter and we didn’t let her get away with anything. So if she showed even a trace of disrespect or bad attitude, she would find herself taking a trip over my knee with her panties down for a good, sound spanking on her bare bottom. Through constant reinforcement in this way, with lectures, spankings and corner time, Melanie’s behavior began to improve. Not overnight by any means, but week by week we began to see real improvement. Domestic discipline relationships can work only if both partners agree to take defined roles and believe that it will enhance their relationship. If someone is unwilling to take on a role or doesn’t feel comfortable in it (it can concern not only women but men as well), it’s probably not the best choice to be involved in a domestic discipline relationship. Remember that mutual consent, defined rules, punishment methods, and limits are what makes domestic discipline different from abuse. Before we begin the second and subsequent spankings I will tell you redress. I want you to obey fully with each spanking”After the type of spanking is determined, I will tell you where you are going to be spanked – like over my knee, or over the couch or over the bed. I have found that appropriate disciplinary implements can be very useful tools, as they really do help me in my role as disciplinarian, to provide our daughter with creative and memorable chastisement. However it is important that the use of implements should be discussed in detail as part of the agreed arrangement between parents and their 18+ daughters. Everything from the classics (a naughty young man gets spanked by his Mommy for not doing chores, or an unruly employee is strapped by his boss in her office), to the absurd, role play is where things can get exciting! What scene have you always wanted to do? What is your deepest fantasy? Miss Kelley has tremendous experience in a variety of roles, and can either help you craft the just-right scene, or dive in to your elaborate creation.