What Women Want: Conversations on Desire, Power, Love and Growth

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To build real confidence you must boost real competence...The only effective strategy for gaining real confidence is to develop skills and demonstrate performance of those skills." It’s not true that men and women are equally valuable, and it’s not just socialization and culture, but also nature. And while it can be attractive in some instances, social intelligence is a highly prized quality by many women -especially high-quality women-. Based on hours of conversations between Maxine and her patients, this book lays bare our fears, hopes, secrets and capacity for healing. With great empathy and precision, What Women Want presents a fearless look into the depths of who we are, so that we can better understand each other and ourselves.

Women talking about the consequences of male behavior is now the subject of two novels: Topics of Conversation, Miranda Popkey’s widely praised debut, and Women Talking, by feted Canadian author Miriam Toews. Although the two novels are set in vastly different social worlds—Popkey focuses on white, college-educated American women; Toews writes about the illiterate female members of a conservative Mennonite colony in Bolivia—they are united by their interest in understanding the ways women respond to their subordination. Both works use private conversations between women who deal with men in intimate settings to examine enduring, if only more recently visible, feminist concerns: What do women want, and how can they get it? After thirty years of research, Sigmund Freud still felt the great unanswered question was: 'What does a woman want?' Fifteen years into her own journey as a psychotherapist, Maxine Mei-Fung Chung believes her collaboration with her patients holds the answers. If you believe that money, status, and fashion/style, which are a good part of looks don’t matter, then you are spreading misinformation. Research shows they do. And when you talking about “the top 10% of women”, as if things were totally different there, you are not talking about a different species. The top 10% wants even more of what the other women want. They want even more status, looks, and resources because, of course, the top 10% is even more demanding. That just makes plain sense. As a man, it is impossible to be better at mating until you understand the subjective experience of a woman, because it is fundamentally different than yours in many ways...Some of the same male traits that frighten you the most also seem to be the most attractive to you. The guys who pose the greatest physical threat are also the sameGenerally speaking, it works like this: Men compete more for short-term sex, and women compete more for long-term commitment. For most young men, getting laid is the ultimate sexual outcome. For most women, getting a guy to go steady as her boyfriend is a major milestone; getting him to propose marriage is the ultimate outcome. Read that section again and again until it is seared into your brain: men compete for sex, and women compete for commitment." I don’t buy into W. Anton’s first part of the sentence though. Indeed, he stresses and repeats that confidence is about appearing to be certain. A rich and intimate examination of female desire, Maxine's book is full of wisdom and insight. I cannot recommend it enough' Julia Samuel Nach 2 lieblosen Ehen erlebt sie das erste Mal Gefühle. Ihr frisch getrennter Sohn macht ihre neue Beziehung schlecht. Sie möchte aber eine Leben an der Seite des Mannes, den sie liebt, erleben. Romantic proof: show and share your feelings, respect her having greater emotional needs than you do, be respectful, caring, compassionate, cuddle

Hollywood romantic comedies and Hallmark greeting cards have convinced much of our culture that the six most romantic words a man can say to a woman are 'I love you' and 'I am sorry.' This is bullsh*t. In fact, if you look at actual behavior and mate choice, those six words are 'Don’t worry honey, I got this'—which means: we face a real problem together as a couple, but I can totally handle it as a man. I’m effective. Females throughout nature favor effective males...Women are attracted to physical effectiveness, not physical narcissism." Maxine not only introduces us to seven women from various walks of life – each with their own emotional battles, past wounds and life challenges, but also offers insights to her own involvement in their therapeutic interactions. Somehow this book manages to present a sound science-based argument for behavior, combined with moral/ethical one, and this behavior is pro-social and accomplishes the literal stated goal of the title. It's very much aimed at heterosexual teen to young adult men (maybe early 30s at most), but that's also a group with the biggest problems with dating -- although I'd love to see someone write the female version of this book for young women as well. Essentially it comes down to advocating for genuine self improvement on the dimensions which make men more attractive, how to present those traits accurately, and how to proceed from that basis. Men and women will make decisions collectively. Women will be allowed to think. Girls will be taught to read and write. The schoolhouse must display a map of the world so that we can begin to understand our place in it. A new religion, extrapolated from the old but focused on love, will be created by the women of Molotshcna.Loved reading this book. Analyzing the millions of years of evolution involved, it's a practical and educational read filled with humor on an incredibly important and misunderstood subject with a research-based approach. I saw so many inputs on this author by you that was either completely misunderstood because you didn’t want to understand and often the truth does have that side effect to people who can’t handle the truth or you were just completely naïve. As large numbers of women become steadily wealthier, more powerful, and more independent, their choices and preferences are transforming our commercial environment in a variety of important ways, from the cars we drive to the food we eat; from how we buy and furnish our homes to how we gamble, play, and use the Internet—in short, how we spend our time and money.