Side effects that usually do not require medical attention (report to your doctor or health care professional if they continue or are bothersome): Try pushing your body against his so that his penis goes in about an inch. Pause there, and keep focused on breathing and staying relaxed. If that feels OK, try another inch. Work your way down the length of his penis as far as you feel comfortable. If you’re feeling good, you can try moving up and down on his penis, or letting him take control of the movement. Keep communicating to let him know how you’re feeling. If this is your first foray into anal play and stretching, starting small is a must even if you think you can handle more. It comes down to your comfort level, but aim to train once or twice a day, at least 5 days a week, for 5 to 10 minutes at a time. Your sphincter’s number one priority isn’t to accommodate a mammoth butt plug; it’s meant to contract to hold your poop in your rectum and flex to let it out when you’re ready.

Apply a liberal amount of lube to your finger or toy, as well as around your anal opening. By liberal I mean basting yourself up like you would a turkey on Thanksgiving. Anal Ease Creams contains benzocaine, an ester local anesthetic that is safer for mucus membranes like lips and anus than lidocaine. However, similar products contain 5%Lidocaine working synergistically with essential oil formulated in a slippery gel that doubles as a lube. If you’re feeling actual pain — like a severe, sharp, or throbbing pain — then slowly pull out. You can try again in a couple of days with a smaller toy or after being sufficiently relaxed.

If met with some resistance — which is totally normal — gently remove it, apply lube again, and try again. Anal Ease Creams (Anal Ese, Anal Eze, or Anal Eaze) are lidocaine or benzocaine-based desensitizing anal lubes used mainly to reduce the initial discomfort associated with anal intercourse while its lubricating properties allow for ease of penetration. It works by slightly numbing the anal region. Unless you’re using silicone toys…This is a pretty simple rule of thumb: If you’re using silicone toys, use a water-based lube, since silicone-based lubes can break down toys and make them gummy and gross (like material doesn’t like like material). First, you want to be sure to choose a material that’s body-safe. Look for toys that are phthalate and BPA-free.

If you get a bad case of the runs or have an actual bowel movement, then stopping to properly clean yourself up and out is a good idea. The anus isn’t self-lubricating like a vagina, and the tissue is thinner and more sensitive than the rest of your skin. This makes it more prone to tearing and infection, including sexually transmitted infections (STIs). A natural lube, like this one from Passion Lubes, is a good choice for your delicate derriere. Say no to numbing agents Go shallow at first. Whether it’s with a toy or finger, go shallow at first when penetrating someone’s anus. I know, the impulse is to get in there — all the way in there— but take it easy, tiger, before you deep dive. The prostate is a magical source of pleasure. For the penetrating penis, the anus is very tight, which can feel amazing. There’s a lot of pleasure on the receiving end too, thanks to the prostate. Here’s how to find it, stimulate it, and make it super happy.Slow and steady wins the butt play race. Get ready for insertion by lightly pressing your toy against your hole with minimal pressure. Relax. I know, I know — this is easier said than done. If you’re nervous, take a few deep breaths. Like you mean it deep breaths. A calm mind will hopefully set your ass at ease. It’s OK to hit stop or pause at any point. Consent can be revoked or renegotiated at any time. A lot of people don’t understand that you can be in the middle of an act with somebody — like anal sex — and can put a full-stop on it, at any time, even if you’ve said, “Yes, I want to do this.” The pump bottle design was practical, allowing for easy dispensing and preventing messes. The 250ml size was generous and lasted a decent amount of time. See a doctor if there’s a lot of blood, bleeding continues for more than a couple of minutes, or is accompanied by pain. What should you do if there’s poop?