It was relatively easy to see that there were four major groups where I might include myself. The first was easily rejected: since I’m physically attracted to women and have an absolute aversion towards having sexual intercourse with males, I couldn’t be homosexual. Even though several crossdressers and transvestites are openly homosexual, or at least bi-curious, I was clearly not one of them. Now you are ready to try casual clothing for which there really isn’t a male counterpart. The fashions may be different because of the fabric, the cut, the color, or even the type of clothing. You may or may not feel comfortable wearing these in public without a wig, shapewear, or makeup. These will definitely draw attention to yourself if you present yourself otherwise as a male.

I have a gay friend who says that the only thing lesbians and gay men have in common, is that they have noting in common. But that was enough for them to develop shared symbols and meeting places. According to this theory, the many classes of ‘crossdressers’ can be reduced to fundamentally two. One, of course, are the fetishist crossdressers — there is no ‘inner self-image as a woman’ involved, but merely the sexual arousement focused on an object: women’s clothing. In fact, there is nothing extraordinary about feeling aroused by women’s clothing — specially underwear. If female underwear weren’t sexy and attractive to men, women wouldn’t wear it! The difference, of course, is that the fetishist crossdresser wants to feel the silky, smooth feeling of women’s clothing fabric on top of their own skin, and that’s what so arousing. Many, of course, may progress to wear more and more layers of female clothes, and obviously go as far as wearing wigs and breast forms. Sissyfication is one typical example where the sexual arousal comes from a full transformation, and which may optionally even include female behaviour, as a form of submissive behaviour in a D/s relationship where the woman in the relationship forces the male to humiliation through sissyfication. E. There is no clinically significant delay in cognitive development or in the development of age-appropriate self-help skills, adaptive behavior (other than in social interaction), and curiosity about the environment in childhood.My question is: Under which umbrella does this sexuality or kink fall? Does this make me autosexual, transsexual or asexual? Its still very confusing for me. Can some of you relate to this? I don´t crossdress at all by the way. Its just in my head.

When I started this blog one of the very first topic that popped up was the relationship between Asperger and male to female crossdreaming. So the fact it took 30 plus years to develop both a sexual and emotional desire to be 100% woman challenges both the sexological and transgender narratives of crossdreaming. If you were a transwoman due to a female neurological component then you would surely know it…just as transkids know it… from an early age. Similarly, if it was purely sexual, why would it take so many years to develop? If you’re heterosexual then you know you like girls from a very early age; femephiliacs should not take decades to arrive at their sexual fantasies of being 100% woman?

I am a pretty girl. Objectively I an reasonably pretty and my partners tell me so. It never stops though. It is never enough. One always wants to be their perfect mental image of what a woman should be but of course that is elusive and fluid. The XXY condition is actually one of the most common chromosome abnormalities in humans (1 in 500 males), and XXY male bodied persons do not necessarily display the symptoms Tina describes.This means that there could be XXY crossdreamers out there who do not know they have Klinefelter. My answer is ‘no’… (another day, I’ll explain the question.) The point I want to make is that although I don’t want to eliminate the feelings I have, I wish I could find the perfect lifestyle/ method to reduce them. My ultimate goal would be to experience the positive aspects of a crossgender nature…but not feel the loss and the pain. How can I do that? My langage was really different, and still is when I interact with other adults. I sometimes speak in a writing style, using a lot of conjunctions and polishing a lot the words that I use.