I was cheated on as well, after 18 years together. I, however, had been unhappy in our relationship for a number of years, but my husband insisted everything was "normal." All couples fight, and the fact that I thought it was too much didn't matter. My pleas for counseling were minimized. He had never cheated before, but then a "friend" from work became friendlier, and friendlier. He wasn't getting his needs met at home at that point, but mine hadn't been getting met for quite a long time prior.His invalidation of my feelings on it led me to shut down. Alumna. Unfaithful. Sharing hope with others struggling from the shame and destruction of their bad choices. Restoring the broken pieces by the healing power of God’s unfailing love. Vikki Where her head is inside the bedroom, should have no bearing on where her head is at on a day to day basis. Fantasies and role play are not real life. I think it is important to let her know she can be one way in private and you will still treat her as a beautiful flower the next morning. You are her husband. Make sure she feels safe to explore her dark side with you and only you. My husbandhad a sexual affair witha younger woman but had several other "emotional relationships" (finally admitted) throughout the 36 yr. marriage. Most likely sexual affairs, as he has no remorse, no guilt, just indifference. Cheaters are just PLAIN SELFISH PEOPLE. No regard for others and do not care about anyone or anything. I make certain to hold her and tell her how wonderful she is, after sex. Cuddling and kissing long after orgasms seems to work well.

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Alumnus, Unfaithful. Providing hope, encouragement and infidelity-specific insight to anyone in recovery from betrayal. Songs For the Soul The BDSM mantra is safe, sane, consensual. The second one is the question here - is this something she really wants in a *healthy* fashion? Alumnus. Betrayed. No matter how long it takes or how hard it is, my wife is always worth it! JuliaAlumna. Betrayed. Walking in obedience to God's direction and experiencing a richer life and Renewed marriage. Steve With that said, if these desires are rooted in an unpleasant past, then counseling should continue. She may get to the point where she no longer desires humiliation. It is important that you are part of the journey to get there.

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I understand the problems in your marriage but please remember that there are lots of couples with serious marriage problems. Most of them do not choose to have an affair. One of the first steps of recovery is recognizing truly what had happened. Alumna. Member, EMS Weekend Retreat Team. Hope and healing are possible for anyone willing to work through the pain. Chase I want to please her and me being more aggressive with her would be a turn on for both of us, from day 1 she has always wanted to submit to me sexually and I'm more than happy and willing to oblige. However, I cannot help but feel that at this point in time it will do more harm than good. I read this post and found it helpful. I am the other woman, met him on Craigslist and wanted to have an affair becuse my very angry and abusive husband hasn't touched me in 3 years. He is in the military and currently overseas. Tom and Wilma, who had dreamed of boating for years, were finally able to buy their first boat. They took delivery and excitedly prepared to be boaters and enjoy life on the water.Alumna, Betrayed. Seeking God's grace to find meaning and purpose in the pain. Hoping to share my life raft with others drowning in the despair of infidelity. Grace I can tell you that if I don’t indulge her in private she will push it into our public lives, and get very bratty until she gets her way. So the idea that the Dominant is in charge isn’t necessarily true. Alumna. Betrayed. Striving to recover and thrive after betrayal. I believe gratitude is the antidote to grief. If I can help you in your healing, therein lies my own. Jessica Unfortunately a lot of the males out there looking for affairs with married women are predators (as you found out). It takes a real scumbag to hit on a married woman.

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Alumna. Betrayed. Experiencing God's love after divorce. Celebrating the healing of myself and my identity. Dana

Alumnus. Unfaithful. Living life differently, enjoying my wife and family, and grateful for God’s love. Carlie

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Has she specifically stated that she wants to be verbally humiliated in the bedroom? Or is it more mental or physical? Possibly a combination of them all? Discuss what you want to get out of this. Is she wanting humiliation to take her mind off of life? Is she satisfying some long-desired interest? Exploring the root of the submission (and dominance in your own case) will help you both approach and appreciate this from a place of stability. These painful, humiliating and embarrassing questions and thoughts running through the minds of husbands whose wives are involved with sexual affairs with another man or men strike at the very core of our being. I remember the pain I felt when I found out my wife had done sexual things with her affair partner she had refused to do with me. So I did it out of lonliness, revenge an also this basic need to be touched, caressed, held and wanted.Ok, my bad, I should have let her make the decision on how far it went. I was trying to get close but not too close. She bought a T-shirt that said something about it not being easy being a ***** but somebody has to do it, and wore it out shopping. I suggested it was a bit much, and she said she would wear another one she got, around the neighborhood, which said “No is not my safe word!” unless I punished her. If you are a man and struggling with these issues please know that you are not alone and that this has nothing at all to do with you or your sexuality. This is not the woman you married. Some people liken it to an alien that had taken over the person involved with the affair. They will do the craziest, hurtful, unhealthy things while in the grips of the powerful addiction.