Diagnostic question #32. Given the way your partner acts, does it feel as though in getting close to you what he’s most interested in is subjecting you to his anger and criticism?

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And if you’ll be happiest leaving, you’ll get the reassurance that comes from finally understanding why your relationship has been too bad to stay in. When you end a relationship that deserves to end, you’re liberating two people to move on to better lives. Diagnostic question #23. With your new, more complete, more realistic set of information about what it would be like to leave, have you discovered new, more probable realities that now make leaving seem easier, more attractive, and make staying no longer desirable? It’s such an ordeal talking about the littlest thing.” This is when negotiating solutions together is virtually impossible. A guideline that says your relationship is too bad to stay in overrules any guidelines that say your relationship is too good to leave.For better or for worse I found this book and started reading it. It's a really good "workbook" to use in couples therapy since it provides 36 main questions to ask yourself if you should stay or leave a relationship. Also, it offers guidance in answering the questions so that you can start making a diagnosis analysis on the relationship you and your partner are in. My editor, Deborah Brody, has wowed me with her intelligence and enthusiasm. I thank her for caring about this book and for her marvelous ability to translate her caring into effective action that’s enabling this information to reach as many people as possible.

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If you’re having trouble coming up with your bottom lines, say this to yourself: “Even though I love my partner and even though I’d rather be in a relationship than be alone, there are some things that if they were going on would mean I just could no longer be happy or at peace in this relationship.” Then let yourself imagine what those things are for you and put them on the list.A relationship where you feel demeaned, where there is no trust, or where there is a constant threat of physical violence should be left, regardless of the good things it has going for it. It's easy to convince yourself that the good offsets the bad, but some things are simply too bad to put up with, and significantly predict unhappiness. For each item on your list ask yourself, “Is this true?” “Is this likely?” Then ask yourself, “What else is possible?” “What’s most likely?” Al compartir mis impresiones estoy decidiendo hacerle saber a quien esté pasando por alguna dificultad con su pareja: a todos nos sucede, no todos sabemos cómo solucionarlo, no estás solo/a y es mejor que te tomes acciones claras para solucionar tus problems. Busca ayuda, mentores, hazte preguntas objetivas y búscales respuestas. Sentarte a sufrir a solas no te sacará de dudas. No digo que haya que salir a gritar a los cuatro vientos qué está mal con nuestras vidas, pero sí está bien abrirse a alguien de confianza que no esté directamente involucrado y que te pueda guiar. Compartir tus problemas abiertamente cuando estás en plena crisis probablemente te exponga a mayores daños, porque en medio de los problemas se es más vulnerable de lo normal. En crisis se dicen y se hacen tonterías. Sin embargo, lo que aprendas al solucionarlos puede que sirva de ayuda a otros.