Ask before you buy. First, ask her if she’s interested in sex toys at all. Have a conversation. She might be a Dildo Diane, or a Vibe Veronica. She might require connection and be interested in teledildonics. Find out what appeals to her. There’s a refrain from the marriage counseling community that basically encourages people to start the process of sex and hope their desire ramps up to meet the occasion. You can start touching yourself gently, drawing your awareness to your corporeal self. You can tease yourself. You know what works for your body, what turns you on, what stokes your flame right now. It’s designed for anyone working with sex and sexuality. You could be a massage provider, a sex therapist, a yoga instructor, you could be a sex worker. You could be any of those things or more. The training is for people who already have a basic confidence in their work or in the work they want to be doing, but they are yearning for something more. Everybody who comes to the course, comes with a struggle or issue where they want to get better at. If you think sexual and spiritual bliss can'­t be found in today'­s fast-paced world, you haven'­t experienced Urban Tantra. With a juicy mix of erotic how-to and pleasure-centered spiritual wisdom, acclaimed sex educator Barbara Carrellas radically updates the ancient practice of Tantra for modern sexual explorers desiring to push past their edge in search of the great cosmic orgasm.With more than one hundred easy-to-follow techniques for expanded orgasmic states and solo and partner play (as well as more adventurous practices), this in-depth guide reveals the delicious worlds of ecstasy available to all, including:The Erotic Awakening Massage • Breath and Energy Orgasms • Twenty-Minute Tantra Evolutionary Selfloving • Sex and Healing • Tantric BDSMNo matter what your gender, sexual preference, or erotic tastes, URBAN TANTRA will expand your notions about pleasure and open you up to new heights of intimacy and sexual fulfillment. If you think sexual and spiritual bliss can't be found in today's fast-paced world, you haven't experienced Urban Tantra. Celebrating the 10th anniversary of Urban Tantra, acclaimed sex educator Barbara Carrellas radically updates the ancient practice of Tantra for modern sexual explorers desiring to discover new frontiers. With a juicy mix of erotic how-to and heart-centered spiritual wisdom, this updated edition includes a brand-new introduction, up-to-date references and resources, a new take on the possibilities and responsibilities of Tantra in today’s world, plus new and cutting-edge information to reach an expanded community—added information on multi-partner play, more intersections for Tantra and BDSM, practices for asexuals and aromantics, expanded practices for trans and gender nonconforming people, and more.

Working with people who are doing such different work must be a challenge. What do you tell people to come with to be prepared?Barbara is also a Sex/Life coach, offering her clients sex information and education, intuitive readings, emotional and mental rebalancing, resources and referrals. The essence of her work is the inseparable connection between your sex life and the rest of your life, and the happy integration of body, mind, and spirit.

Practices – This is a transformative programme because it is experience based learning meaning, you don’t just sit around and talk about these things, I invite you to practice and embody what we explore and this is what creates lasting change. If you're in London, you can book over 30 home treatments including manicures and pedicures, lash extensions, brow tints, facials, Hollywood waxing and more. It’s also an opportunity to provide people who work with sex a place to find a common language. Often Tantric practitioners speak in a new age, energy based language that keeps people who would like their services away from them because they’re put off by language. Sex therapists can be too clinical to attract some of the clients that they want to work with. Kink professionals can be a little scary, and not in a good way. So we transform language so that people get to say what they do in a way that will attract the people they really want to work with. In this workshop, you’ll learn Tantric techniques for intense full-bodied orgasms, amazingly deep, heart-centered connections (with a partner or with yourself) and the bliss that comes when your spiritual and sexual paths are one.For the past 12 years I have partnered with my clients (and anyone who, like me, is passionate about connection) to explore and cultivate states of oneness and connection to the mystical realms of experience. As I've delved into this exploration of intimacy I have come to see how it intersects with spirituality. This has brought me to the belief that sexuality is the seed and seat of our soul and intrinsically tied to the root of our being. Intimacy creates a container in which deep healing, growth and self realization can take place. In a time when screens, social media, and AI have the potential to distance us from intimacy and genuine connections with ourselves and others, it becomes increasingly vital to nurture states of being that foster pleasure, comfort, and a profound sense of belonging in our bodies, minds, and the world around us.