Strengthening My Recovery

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The ACA Solution is that we become our “own loving parent.” Becoming our own loving parent involves seeing our “biological parents as the instruments of our existence.” As The Solution states: “Our actual parent is our Higher Power, whom some of us choose to call God.” At this meeting we read ACA readings: Serenity Prayer, 12 traditions, Tony A steps and principles, Other or Laundry List alternating weeks. You will be surprised how different it feels and how much more you and others get out of your share. It may feel uncomfortable at first. That’s because you are casting off your protective shield and revealing the real you. Remember: I have the right to laugh, to play, to have fun, and the freedom to celebrate this life, right here, right now. I used to soothe myself by lengthy scrolling through the news and social media on my phone. If I could gather enough information on what was happening in the world before getting out of bed, perhaps I could side-step the day’s dangers ahead. While I did end up being well-informed, this pastime didn’t soothe the little child within, the one who really needed soothing.

Daily Meditation from Voices of Recovery - SAA Daily Meditation from Voices of Recovery - SAA

The book is structured to help you access the love inside you and grow the awareness and skills you need to become your own loving parent: Without ACA we remain in destructive or loveless relationships because we fear abandonment. The term “adult child” means that we respond to adult interactions with the fear and self-doubt learned as children. This undercurrent of hidden fear can sabotage our choices and relationships. We can appear outwardly confident while living with a constant question of our worth. Whatever our path, we found no lasting help until we found ACA.The following commands can be entered via DTMF tones using your phone's dial pad while in a Zoom meeting: An endless cycle of giving and receiving is at the very heart of the success and continuation of ACA. Adult children understand each other, because we have experienced similar effects from being raised with similar dysfunction. Being in the company of those who know of our pain brings comfort and reassurance that we are not alone. The Loving Parent Guidebook which explores, in practical terms, how to build this healing resource into your life. We read it together and we do the exercises together in the meeting. The book provides guidance on creating the conditions to reclaim your inner child and reparent yourself with gentleness, humor, love, and respect. You can apply everything you learn in this guidebook to parenting, interacting with children, and interacting with adults. When you become a friend to yourself, you’re naturally a friend to others.

Loving Parent Guidebook - Adult Children of Alcoholics Loving Parent Guidebook - Adult Children of Alcoholics

Most Fellow World Travelers meetings are audio only, do not use the video function unless it is written in the meeting info. Prayer can be thought of as talking to god, for example, asking questions such as: ‘God, what is your will for me?’ Meditation can be thought of as listening for God’s guidance. In this meeting cams are optional, we share popcorn style and we go into break-out rooms so everyone gets the opportunity to share. Feel free to join us anytime. It can even be an attempt to subconsciously control others or place responsibility outside of oneself. Example: “When you get abused, it hurts you.” Change this to: “When I got abused, it hurt me.” Sharing in the first person promotes self responsibility by divulging information only about yourself. When you are tempted to use the generic “you,” “we,” etc., try to catch yourself and replace i with “I.” In Chapters 17-21, Nurturing a Loving Inner Home, you’ll connect more deeply with your inner family to build a loving inner home.I really believe that this Guidebook will fundamentally alter how recovery in ACA is understood, and how it happens.” -Fellow Traveler

Our ACA Meditation of the Day - Adult Children of Alcoholics

Most Fellow World Travelers meetings are audio only, please do not use the video function, unless it is written at the meeting information.By attending regular meetings we come to a better understanding of our past so we can more effectively restructure our lives today. We begin to see more clearly what is positive and healthy in ourselves. By practicing ACA outside of meetings, we can avoid recreating our family of origin at work. We can avoid being a victim, a hero, or the invisible employee who is rarely noticed and passed over for pay raises. Without working our program, we can easily take the patterns and roles we learned at home and apply them in the workplace. We risk taking our parental programming and our false attitudes about ourselves into our working life. Even if we don’t work full-time, looking at ACA traits in the workplace can help improve our interaction in other groups or social settings. We may work part-time or have a position in a volunteer, charitable, or worship group. We may be retired and be part of a recreational group. The personality types that can be difficult for us will likely show up whenever and wherever we interact with others on a regular basis. This chapter on ACA experience in the workplace will help us focus on our program and improve our behavior in relationships wherever we go. While becoming our own Loving Parent is at the core of healing from a neglectful childhood, it is also the gateway to the child within. In addition to the ACA Twelve Steps, this is The ACA Solution. By reparenting ourselves with gentleness, humour, love and respect, we find our child within and true connection to a Higher Power.