Discipline Without Damage: How to Get Your Kids to Behave Without Messing Them Up

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The book isn't all bad. The emphasis on developing a trusting relationship with the child is, if not practical, at least encouraging. Early in the book she presents the idea that children don't know how to calm themselves down - those neural pathways haven't developed strongly yet. So having a parent guide them through that over and over helps those pathways develop until they are able to do it by themselves. I wish there had been more on this point. The reality: Compassionate responding and mindful parenting does not mean “Disneyland-party-time-no-rules-no-boundaries-no-expectations.” It just means the implementation of rules, boundaries and expectations with compassion. Hold the line. Of course hold the line. Children today are desperate for someone to be in charge. But for goodness sake be kind. See (2) above RE: brain development. And see (3) above RE: connection-based power. And then deal with this like the adult you are. Put the boundary in place. Regulate your child over any upset they might have as a result of that through kindness and compassion. Help your child get started on cleaning up the walls, support them in this work if they are little, or get it cleaned up yourself if they are too small yet to be part of this. And then move on. They didn’t color on your walls to spite you (unless you have created this kind of relationship with them – in which case, it is on you to fix that up like yesterday). They did it because it looked cool and their brain wasn’t able to hold onto “but maybe this was a bad idea” alongside “wow this looks super cool” and actually implement some impulse control around the wall-coloring. See (1) above regarding development of pre-frontal cortex. Self-esteem is made up of many components working together. In this chapter, you will learn what they are, how they work independently, and with each other. You will also learn how to leverage this to your advantage.

Discover how to discipline successfully without losing control. Learn a natural way of encouraging good behavior that is both loving and effective. You deserve to feel empowered and confident in your parenting. Disciplining Without Damage will help you to become an empowered leader in your home who is in control without being controlling.

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At the end of this chapter, you will have the opportunity to put what you learned into practice with easy-to-understand strategies and exercises. This interview has been edited and condensed by Dr. Joelene Huber, a staff pediatrician at St. Michael's Hospital in Toronto, an assistant professor in the University of Toronto Faculty of Medicine and a Fellow in Global Journalism at the Munk School of Global Affairs, University of Toronto.

You will learn how each of these topics relates to self-esteem and how to avoid mistakes that lower it. You will discover how to put these concepts into practice within your home with examples for both younger and older children.This book is logical, practical, and useful for any caregiver. This book is suitable for any age with examples for younger and older children. Apart from the problematic concept of the Hulk by itself, the author wants parents to "hulk it up" with "swagger," whatever that is supposed to mean. We are supposed to exude confidence as parents. We have all seen confident people and people who have this natural respectability and authority with children. If we were that type of person, we wouldn't be reading this book. But I don't think the author understands that *we can't just will ourselves to become more confident.* Confidence doesn't work that way. No more power struggles. Improve communication, connection and decrease defiance. Gain more positive energy to give to your child and the other loved ones in your life - including yourself. Instead, it's about moving towards positive leadership and gaining the right tools to become an empowered individual who is in control without being controlling. My guide will help you across your child's whole childhood.

A child psychologist equips parents with tools to manage behavioral issues more effectively while supporting their child’s healthy, natural development. No more yelling, nagging, or fighting. Gain more positive energy to give to your child and to the other loved ones in your life (including yourself). I'm Arabella Hille. I am an experienced Parenting Educator qualified in Behavioral Science. I'm also a mother, former teacher, the author of the best-selling Ultimate Guide Parenting series, and Founder of Victorious Parenting. Via my books and programs, I have helped over 70,000 caregivers transform their home lives! This guide will help you across your child's whole childhood. It provides respectful solutions to both you and your child without the need for yelling or punishing so that your love and growth will have a domino effect on all that witness it. The foundation of a healthy, effective approach to discipline that respects your child’s developmental needs… and works!Tags: boundaries, damage, development, discipline, helicopter parenting, parenting, sensitive child Hi, I'm Arabella Hille, author of the best-selling, Ultimate Guide Parenting series and Founder of Victorious Parenting.

The Ultimate Guide to Disciplining Without Damage for Every Age is an easy-to-follow process that shows you how to Discipline Without Damage so that you will no longer have to yell or nag again.Quite a lot of the book is taken up with convoluted analogies that do not succeed in clarifying or explaining anything. It reads as if the author was trying to stretch out the material, but then she glosses over things that should really have been explained in greater detail. You will discover the root cause of external behavioral traits in children and how to help them develop positive self-esteem from the root up! You will also learn how to help your child navigate anger and overcome feelings of powerlessness and helplessness. My major complaint - and it is major - is that TWICE in the book the author states that holding on to "a little" parental guilt is a good thing because this guilt will motivate you to push yourself to be the best parent you can be. my home life and to my classroom as a teacher. I developed my own methods and saw my child and students shine. The retort: My child is going to need to have this figured out as an adult, so they might as well figure it out now.