I have been in a long term sexual affair with one man for over 15 years. I don’t love him, but I love the sex. He gives me the greatest sex that I can possibly imagine. I have been married for Six (6) years. And yes, I love my husband very much.” My (31F) partner (29M) and I started hotwifing a year ago and we’ve really been enjoying the lifestyle. We thought we’d share the story of our first encounter. Yes honey! - they are young and ** and they have no girl to help them - so they replay ** things they've seen that day. Like that little 18 yr old blonde in the tiny bikini down in the pool!" There’s a softness and openness in our relationship. We are each other’s “safe harbor.” We have greater intimacy and can trust each other with our hearts. (I know there are other parts of our relationship that build this too, but sex does it in a way that nothing else can.) She was a good girl. She didn’t want to cheat on her husband and that’s what drew me to her. She kept turning me down, even though I could tell she was tempted. Then, one day, she let me rest a hand on her leg. Then inch it up higher. And higher. And pretty soon she was coming with only my fingertips.” — Tyler, 27

The day I will physically cheat on him, I would be getting out of this marriage. And it’s going to be in April, 2018. My true love is coming to Ghana, to take me away. I have already secured a Visa to return with him. I have no plans of divorcing my husband. Neither do I plan to tell him about my true feelings. He would return from work one day in April, and find all my belongings at home alright… but I would be gone.”

My ex showed up at my apartment in tears, crying her eyes out about how her husband cheated on her. She wanted revenge. So she got it with me.” — Shane, 29 Now to the real problem that I have ignored and continue to let happen. My husband’s sister got killed in an accident 4 years ago and we took in her son Robbie who was 15 at the time now almost 19. I honestly don’t know how long he has been doing it but I know now he has been peeking into the bathroom when I shower. The doorway is covered by a large bed quilt and nailed above the door. Our new bathroom has the shower and tub enclosed in glass sliding door. It only happens when my husband is working the 3 to 11pm shift and only one-time months ago did I ask Robbie if he was peeking in, which he denied. Now I am sure he has been doing it for at least six months but the quilt has been over the bathroom door since last October. I can see when he is moving the quilt out of the way but never let on that I know he is watching me. I wanted to prove it to myself so badly I have placed the video camera under the blanket of my bedroom door aimed at the bathroom 10 times in the last few months. I try thinking of disrespectful, cold attitudes in men, sometimes, as fun: because a woman can never know exactly what to expect with these ‘dogs’, so I am always ready for ANYTHING, and I take pride in my ability to f**k the hell outta them – as a form of my response when they’re almost getting pissed. You can ask my husband. When it comes to good sex, otse me soa, osore! Me tumi di no saaa, he begs me to stop! Make-up sex is always a fresh beginning in my mind, so I make sure it is indeed, a memorable one. And, that’s how I am with every other man I am seeing.”

The front doorbell rang and I could here him talking to somebody. I was in total panic mode totally exposed, Tom and Cindy had come over to our house again for dinner and an evening in our hot tub. This time Tom and Cindy brought the dinner - a delicious carryout from our favorite Chinese restaurant. Me and my husband were in charge of the drinks, and we had plenty of strawberry daiquiries which we started serving early. It was about 5 or 6 weeks since Tom and Cindy had last come over and I accidentally and secretly gave Tom a foot job while we were all drunk and in the hot tub. I did not want that to happen again because I was happily married and not at all attracted to Tom. To make matters worse – for a couple of months now he is hardly home and stays out late every night due to work. We are hardly having any sex because he is mostly tired and not interested. Again, the way he is constantly protecting his phone, I’m beginning to think there’s more keeping him out and not only work. The thing is, I am not going to sit down and lose my sanity and peace of mind if I find out he is cheating again so I gave in to one of my numerous admirers. Yes, I love my husband, and I do not want to leave him, and I know he loves me too.About loving sex, that is. I’ve always been a redhead, though. (Immaterial to this conversation but thought I’d throw it in anyway). I don’t want to rat her out, but I met a B-list celebrity at a work event and we hit it off. We did it doggie style inside of her hotel room, but according to the papers, she’s still happily married to this day.” — Aaron, 24 My wife wore her little yellow bikini to swim in - and found that she was quite a hit with all these young guys! He pulled me toward him as we made out. I couldn’t contain my excitement so I wrapped my leg around his hips to get on top of him and straddle him. As soon as I was on top of him he started running his hands all over my body.