He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in many publications, dubbed “emerging figure in the Men’s Movement” by The Seattle Times and “a psychology guru” by The New York Times. As a recovering nice guy, the only way to release your creative potential, start putting your own needs first, experience personal growth, and live your best life, is by investing in yourself. First, you need to read the self-help book, no more Mr. nice guy by Robert a. glover. The No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want is available in hardcover as an audiobook and a podcast. Recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome is dependent on revealing one’s self and receiving support from safe people. It is essential, therefore, that men who want to break free from the Nice Guy Syndrome find safe people to assist them in this process.”

Nice Guys are givers. Nice Guys believe – and frequently state – that helping other people makes them feel better and happier;This guide, both a companion to Dr. Robert Glover’s No More Mr. Nice Guy and a stand-alone manual, takes the reader on a step-by-step journey of masculine self-discovery. It provides a practical and emotional understanding of the problems that many Nice Guys face, and it lays out a series of easy-to-follow exercises for overcoming those issues. By the end of the journey, the you will have the tools to help you pursue your goals with passion and courage, develop more rewarding relationships, enhance your sex life, embrace your masculinity, and ultimately, live a fuller, richer, happier life. These ranged from disgusting to infuriating. I'm supposed to be sitting around reading about the sex lives of gay men and be rooting for their relationship? Hard pass. This guy gives at least two examples of men he convinced to get divorces including one who had just had an affair, and he acted like it was a real accomplishment for the man to get the courage to do so. Exhibit A on why one should mistrust family therapists.

Most Nice Guys believe that by repressing the darker side of their masculine energy they will win the approval of women. This seems logical considering the anti-male climate that has permeated our culture since the 1960s." While in my early 30’s, in spite of my unwavering faith in this philosophy, my life was in crises. One marriage had ended. A second one wasn’t going so well. My career dreams were stalled. I was frustrated, resentful, and confused. If you talked to the people closest to me, I wasn’t so nice. No More Mr. Nice Guy is the definitive book for helping men overcome their chronic tendencies to accommodate, acquiesce, and appease their way through life. Dr. Glover knows how to speak to guys, bringing straightforward, funny, audacious, and highly-practical wisdom that teaches them step by step how to be the man they always wanted to be.” James Rapson, M.S., co-author of Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice Buy The Book I frequently encourage recovering Nice Guys to be just who they are, without reservation...The people who like them just as they are will hang around. The people who don't, won't. This is the only way to have a healthy relationship."

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Another thing you need to learn to do is self-assertiveness and authenticity. This allows you to honor your needs, wants, and values without feeling like you are offending others. Self-assertion does not always mean being aggressive or rude towards other people. It simply means being ready to stand up for yourself. This will make it easy for you to say no to things you disagree with instead of doing them to please others. Being self-assertive means that you refuse to be fake just to be liked. Two irritants in my reading of the book were its overall repetitiveness—perhaps a fifth of the material could just be cut out, if read in one sitting—and the number of formatting issues in the Kindle edition; I flagged 23 content errors in total. Nice Guys hide their true selves from the world because they believe that their true selves are the problem; and, thus, they make the problem worse. Learn to Please the Only Person Who Really Matters

red pill философия е насочена към това. Настоящият автор на тази книга обаче е психолог и терапевт, а те не са от хората, които казват нещата право ти куме в очи, даже съвсем обратното. Поради това той в цялата книга се върти около простите, но неудобни истини, без да има смелостта да ги каже, залива ни с психологичен жаргон и прави нещата много по-сложни, отколкото е нужно да бъдат, и при това доста по-трудно разбираеми и ултимативно - по-малко ефективни. it frightens you, do it. 2Don't settle. Every time you settle, you get exactly what you settled for. 3Put yourself first. 4No matter what happens, you will handle it. 5Whatever you do, do it 100%. 6If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got. 7You are the only person on this planet responsible for your needs, wants, and happiness. 8Ask for what you want. 9If what you are doing isn't working, try something different. 10Be clear and direct. 11Learn to say "no." 12Don't make excuses. 13If you are an adult, you are old enough to make your own rules. 14Let people help you. 15Be honest with yourself. 16Do not let anyone treat you badly. No one. Ever. 17Remove yourself from a bad situation instead of waiting for the situation to change. 18Don't tolerate the intolerable — ever. 19Stop blaming. Victims never succeed. 20Live with integrity. Decide what feels right to you, then do it. 21Accept the consequences of your actions. 22Be good to yourself. 23Think "abundance." 24Face difficult situations and conflict head on. 25Don't do anything in secret. 26Do it now. 27Be willing to let go of what you have so you can get what you want. 28Have fun. If you are not having fun, something is wrong. 29Give yourself room to fail. There are no mistakes, only learning experiences. 30Control is an illusion. Let go; let life happen. It”Dr. Glover argues that the "Nice Guy" is the guy who because he has lost his "voice" resorts to passive aggression, dishonesty, and evasion all the while saying that he is fine and perfectly happy. Underneath, however, he is seething and miserable and doesn't understand or know why. Nice Guys are the guys that everyone can take advantage of, you can ask them for anything and they will give it up, they are easily exploited, they volunteer for everything. All the while they are only craving to be accepted.