NOT "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

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The last thing that Jennifer wants to realize is that 10 or 15 years down the road, Sam says, “You know, I never really forgave you for that affair. I want a divorce.” Or he might never say those words, and simply act it out passive-aggressively.

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This is important because you can’t fully heal from emotional affairs unless you fix your relationship first. Stage 4: Sexually Intimate Affair / Threatened Marriage This is a tough one. Those who have had an affair, whether they’ve been caught or whether they’ve actually come forward, rarely tell the whole story initially. In this case, Jennifer will either feel guilty and extremely protective of Sam, not wanting to hurt him anymore, or she’ll be protective of Anthony. Or both.

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Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (2002). A Two‐Factor Model for Predicting When a Couple Will Divorce: Exploratory Analyses Using 14‐Year Longitudinal Data*. Family Process, 41(1), 83–96. doi: 10.1111/J.1545-5300.2002.40102000083.X But soon after the relief comes a whirlwind of less positive emotions, including rage, disbelief and a general feeling that someone pulled the rag under them. #3. Obsession

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Of course the workplace, with its daily interactions and increased female participation, has been the main driver of the increase in infidelity in the last decades. It starts with suspicion, and the first confrontations arrive when there’s a little bit of evidence. The higher the difference in intimacy between the new partner and the official partner, the more dangerous the affair is to the official relationship. How Emotional Affairs StartGottman, J., & Gottman, J. (2017). The Natural Principles of Love. Journal of Family Theory and Review, 9(1), 7–26. doi: 10.1111/JFTR.12182 The affair might have been consumed or not by step 3. If it’s not, then you reach the final step once it becomes sexual. It is best if the couple can wait and only talk about the affair in the therapist’s office. But some people just can’t wait, so we would suggest that they limit, perhaps even by strictly scheduling, the time that they talk about it. Each would need to agree that they will refrain from using the four horsemen during those conversations. This structure helps prevent emotional explosions or from the affair gaining any more power than it already has, while also honoring the need for healing.