I think about being in the hospital,” I whispered to the ceiling. “I think how great it would be to break both my legs because then someone else would have to care for Hope and no one would blame me.” I held my breath, waiting for the earth to engulf me for exposing this terrible secret. I’m worried about you,” Mom said sharply one morning after she’d placed Hope in a bouncy chair festooned with teddy bears. Many couples experience the feeling of being instantly attracted to someone that is familiar in some way, whether it's a physical reminder of someone beloved or something else they can't put their finger on," Alman says. "Love at first sight is a real phenomenon." Mom had steadfastly cared for my dad, my brother, and me since her early twenties. She rarely complained, but I thought I detected the toll this sacrifice took in the way she seemed happiest not with us, but at church or petting the dog or watching PBS. I tried to make things easier by hiding my troubles from her and sometimes even myself, but this time I was too weak to pretend. On the way home, Melissa called a friend to explain what happened. The friend immediately inundated her with articles on GSA. "I felt a little bit better seeing that this is out there and I wasn't crazy," Melissa says. And while they didn't want to resist their overwhelming sexual attraction to each other, the couple desperately did want to understand why they were experiencing it. Over the past 10 months, they've read as many articles on the condition as possible and even saw a psychologist.

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They claim their sexual and emotional connection is exceptional. "We have an innate trust and no boundaries with each other because we're family," Melissa explains. "When you get into a relationship with someone else, they're a stranger to you. Trust takes a long time to build. But because this is my brother, he's never going to do anything to hurt me." Two days later, Melissa drove two hours during a Monday night Midwestern snowfall to meet her brother. When she saw him standing in the frigid air outside his office building, she felt a connection that was instantaneous and electric.Again, telling someone you love them is very hard to do. If this girl is someone you want to keep in your life for a long time, you should show her how much you appreciate her. Take her out to dinner, or maybe book a special weekend vacation just for the two of you. If this relationship is the one, these will just be incredible memories you can reflect on later.

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I never knew who was going to die first, but in less than a year, Teri was gone. Two days after the funeral I felt exhausted and empty and ready, at last, to go to Mom. My family had been mostly understanding about my dedication to Teri, but occasional comments from my brother — “you only have one Mom, you know” — and my aunt — “You’re coming, right? Because I don’t think I can get her to the doctor myself” — made me feel that my loyalty was in question. Though Kimberly is not opposed to their relationship — "They're both consenting adults," she says — Melissa's friend is concerned about how finding out will impact their kids. Alman adds that contempt and rejection are the greatest consequence for most consanguineous couples: "That happens anytime someone breaks a taboo, and this one is a strong one," she says. "Any couple that does this has to be prepared to lose the love and respect and company of their family members."

Teri opened her eyes, her thin hair strewn across the pillow, and smiled sleepily. “Well, hi, honey.” They drove together to a nearby bar, and on the way, Brian grabbed Melissa's hand and found himself telling her everything. "He starts divulging these deep dark secrets. Things he's never told anyone," she says. "I'm doing the same. We're talking nonstop, insane and enthralled." I appreciate everything you’ve done for me my whole life,” I said, looking down at her, placing my hand over hers.

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We have an innate trust and no boundaries because we're family. My brother is never going to hurt me." I don’t know what is going on,” I said quietly, running my fingers along the edge of the sheet, my eyes filling. “I don’t know if this is normal anymore.” I was depressed once,” she went on. “Before I decided to leave Rich’s dad. I would drive sometimes and think it would be a good idea to drive my car off Huntington Beach Pier.” The news got even more startling: Before his affair with Melissa's mother and eventual marriage to Chris' mother, her biological father was married a first time — and Melissa had several half-siblings. "It was all so crazy. I was dumbfounded," she says. "My life was just exploding." Until she was 40, Melissa* thought she was an only child. For the first decade of her life, she grew up happily in a suburban, upper-middle class area of the Great Lakes. Then, her father committed suicide, and soon after, she says, her mother's mental health began to decline.Melissa hasn't told her family either. She still lives with her two teenage daughters and her husband, who she calls "an open-minded guy," adding that in nearly two decades together she's been in multiple other relationships. "He's allowed it because he knows who I am and my upbringing." They haven't been intimate in 5 or 6 years, but are committed to co-parenting.

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Until then, they will keep sharing their Saturday nights and balancing the challenging dynamics of a relationship under-cover. It's well worth it to them. All states in the U.S. have laws prohibiting marriage and/or sexual intercourse between first-degree relatives. In their state, it's a felony that's punishable by life in prison. Not only do Melissa and Brian feel their love shouldn't be forbidden, they also say they're part of a growing segment of society: As infant adoption and fertility treatments involving sperm, egg, and embryo donation increase, so will the numbers of people walking around who are unknowingly genetically related. Tell her that you have very strong feelings for her, but you don’t want to toss around the word unless you’re sure you mean it. Yes, she might be hurt by this—but she’ll be less hurt than if she knew you lied to her to try and save face. With love comes the possibility of an actual future together, and that’s a big life change for both of you. Just make sure to stay optimistic, and don’t make her feel bad for expressing herself. Saying “I love you” to someone puts you in a vulnerable place, so make sure you don’t respond in a way that makes her feel stupid for sharing how she feels. I told myself and others that I was so immersed in Teri’s care because no one else could understand Teri’s medical issues and advocate for her. Mom was a nurse, meanwhile, and had my dad, a radiologist, my brother, also a radiologist, and my aunt, a nurse, for support. But the truth was that I wanted to help and be with Teri more, and she wanted me with her, so I was. Whenever I thought about this, I felt equal parts warrior and betrayer. That's where things started getting a little bit weird," says Melissa. She remembers having an immediate and intense reaction to hearing Brian's voice. "I don't really know how to describe the feeling, but I was really attracted to it."Still, she has told a couple of her closest confidants. Kimberly*, who's been her friend for more than 15 years, counseled Melissa to slow down when she first met Brian. "The emotions were running high," Kimberly recalls. "Every time she saw him, it was just more intense. When she told me they were lovers, I was quiet and just listened to her talk about him." I cried, this time out of relief, my tears soaking the sleeve of her white cotton nightgown with bitty blue flowers. Be honest—is this what you want? Hopefully, it is. When a partnership reaches the point of love, it’s make it or break it time. Either you’re in it for the long haul, or it’s time to part ways because the two of you want different things. If you’ve never had the marriage or kids discussion, now would be a good time. Those things are hard to compromise on, and if you’re serious about your girlfriend, you need to evaluate her future desires. Maybe you shouldn’t have had kids,” Mom said on another one of those endless mornings after Hope was born, standing at my sink in her red capri pants and white Talbots short-sleeve button-down. She was mixing oatmeal for me, the spoon clinking accusingly against the ceramic bowl, her short dark hair falling just so.