Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

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You know, “If you don't help me, if you don't help me with this thing, I'm going to, you know, some, some horrible outcome. No matter how much effort you put into setting healthy boundaries, some people may still choose not to respect them. And while this book may even give some good advice to people like this, I cannot in good conscience recommend it because of the clearly individualistic and ignorant views the author so clearly holds and advocates for. You might play out awkward interactions in your mind and prepare yourself for the worst possible outcome. Shortform note: It’s important to recognize the distinction between boundary violations that occur naturally as part of an adjustment process, and violations that occur because the other person doesn’t respect your boundaries.

Lastly, Tawwab stresses that you should try not to blame yourself when your boundaries are violated. Most of the topics are introduced through lists that seem to have come straight from Tawwab’s Instagram page.

Shortform note: As you attempt to bring up your concerns as soon as possible, be sure you pick an appropriate time to have boundary conversations. Especially in a modern remote workplace, where employees may clock in on different days and from different time zones, communicating information multiple times can help ensure that nobody misses out on important information.

The healthiest option would be to immediately and explicitly state your boundaries, saying something like “I appreciate that you’re having a difficult time, but I can’t help you with this project. Instead, try and pick a comfortable time and location, in which both of you have time to share your feelings and decompress afterward. If the parent is really being non-biased, they would very likely say, “You should stop telling that friend that thing. And her new book, Drama Free, which tackles the area in which many people find it the hardest to set boundaries: with family members.

You literally have, like, six questions that you should ask yourself before cutting off a toxic family member.