The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children

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Tsabary goes so far as to even claim that “the relationship between parent and child exists for the primary purpose of the parent's transformation and only secondarily for the raising of the child. However, if we shift our own axis to a delight in simply being, so that all our activity flows from this childlike state, we spontaneously find ourselves honoring our children for those qualities that may be less quantifiable but that are infinitely more essential—qualities such as authenticity, awe, joy, peace, courage, and trust. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development and runs a private practice in New York City. How can we raise independent, autonomous children if we ourselves aren’t independent and autonomous? I find myself so conditioned to sermonize, so oriented to teaching, that I am often insensitive to the wondrous ways in which my child reveals her uniqueness, showing us she’s a being unlike any other who has ever walked this planet.

Raised by emotionally cold parents, Anya tried her best to be loved by them by being “super-responsible, perfectly controlled and manicured. We’ve also sourced advice from real mums and dads, who admit that they don’t always get it right, but are happy to share what they’ve learned with you, in the hope that it may be helpful. Blindly attached to the image they have of themselves, they believe that they are doing everything right or, at least, that there is a solution outside themselves.Packed with fun quizzes and tips, it’s a must-read for every kid facing challenges in today’s world. Find evidence-based wisdom, client stories, and practical practices to transform your parenting journey. The Conscious Parent is already transforming the way people are parenting through its sales in the US where it's spent 15 weeks on the New York Times bestseller list.

As you develop both emotionally and spiritually, so you will feel more confident in regard to raising well-adjusted, happy children. The most valuable lesson you can teach your children is that life is about the unfolding of the conscious self. So, instead of seeing Jessica’s rebellion as a cry for love and help, Anya interpreted it as undermining her role as a parent.The reason this is central to good parenting is that children don’t need our ideas and expectation, or our dominance and control, only for us to be attuned to them with our engaged presence. When you parent, it’s crucial you realize you aren’t raising a “mini me,” but a spirit throbbing with its own signature. If a parent does not tolerate shame well, they will be constantly on guard for possible shaming experiences in their relationships. In other words, when they are acting out, they think even less of their parents than their parents think of them when they try to defend them.

The author refers to 'sitting with your emotions' quite often which I fear may be the only advice given other than think before you speak. A good student and an ideal child for 13 years, Jessica became Anya’s worst nightmare between the ages of 14 and 16. Shefali challenges conventional discipline, promoting meaningful parent-child connection for natural growth and resilience. What she didn’t perceive, however, was the obvious: that she wasn’t able to separate herself from her son’s behavior.

It’s a shame as I really like this author but this just goes on and on and on and on, no actual interesting facts or advice, plus it’s patronising. Most parents do think about their childrens needs and often but they just don't know how to make things better in a fast paced world where society is constantly changing. Whenever these emotions are triggered by another’s shadow, we find ourselves upset with the person who evoked these emotions in us.