The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy

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You’ve watched in awe how they have worked through each crisis, remaining committed to their relationship and to each other.

Another way to increase emotional closeness is to ask open-ended questions that actually require a conversation. We’ve got two parts with the Gottmans, and we’re going through their brand new book, The Love Prescription: Seven Days.

And when things get tough… when difficult emotions bubble up… you can repair the situation when you hurt each other. When you respond to your partner’s bids, no matter how big or small they are, you’re showing that you’re there to support them when they need it most. But then when you told me that made a big difference to you, I started really trying to change that.

A simple yet powerful plan to transform your relationship in seven days, from New York Times–bestselling authors Dr. JG: That’s a very small thing, pretty small change, and I didn’t realize that I was just not responding.No matter how awkward it might feel at first, it’s important to discuss what makes each of you feel desired.

You’re not loving a two-dimensional image that looks pretty or handsome, you’re loving a person with cracks, flaws, their own humanity, their own challenges. They'll either need to be right and have the last word or they’ll start 'stonewalling': refusing to communicate with you, even if you ask repeatedly. Paying attention to each other’s bids for attention — and then responding by turning toward your partner with kindness and understanding.That’s right, because the person giving suggests that you must have a need they’re trying to fulfill despite your best intention to hide that need. The Gottman Love Lab is the world’s original couples laboratory, first opened in 1986 at the University of Washington by Dr.

g., Medium), and/or on a personal social media account for non-commercial purposes, provided that you include proper attribution and link back to the podcast URL. Say you’re on the phone, and you see your partner sitting deep in thought, then letting out a big sigh. If talking is difficult, for example, you could try keeping a couple's journal to discuss more challenging emotions. If you found yourself saying "yes" to more than five of these signs, it's very likely your partner has a low level of emotional intelligence. They have poor self-awareness and struggle to share their feelings because they don't understand their internal emotional state.

No matter how busy you both are, put aside at least twenty minutes a day to simply talk to each other and connect. So instead, if you are really busy, because most of us are, say Okay, but I may not get to it until the end of the week. More than 30 years after its inception, the Gottman Love Lab has been reimagined by The Gottman Institute for the high-tech modern age. Factors like a lack of sleep, the menstrual cycle and even our diet can wreak havoc on our wellbeing, leading to a temporarily reduced EQ. Have intimate conversations about what makes you happy, what makes you feel good, or what you want in the future!