Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?: ‘A big hearted story about friendship, family and love’ Beth O’Leary

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It doesn’t end the way usual romance novels are wrapped up, even though you have an idea what will happen if the story continued beyond its end. As the British born daughter of Nigerian immigrants, she’s always been a part of both British and Nigerian cultures. As though she has completely forgotten about the massive bump attached to her front, she dips her knees and bends her back and – oh, good Lord.

You know, sometimes when you read a book and you can hear the author trying to get a message through? Yinka does come across a bit spineless at first in that respect, but has a very satisfying learning curve in discovering her vertebrae. My heart just broke for Yinka when a potential date rejected her on the basis of preference for lighter skinned females. TS: What are the books that really impacted you in your life or a book that you are reading currently that really touched you. A spellbinding debut novel tracing three generations of a Southern Black family and one daughter’s discovery that she has the power to change her family’s legacy.

It’s about rediscovering who you are and refusing to settle for a pale imitation of your life, sticking to your principles, and putting in the work to discover who you are and what it is you want. Yinka's innumerable pressures on being a good daughter, sister, friend, employee, date, bridesmaid, Christian come to a head and I really wished for her to just take some time for herself and live for herself outside of the expectations and demands of others. Maybe I’d have felt differently if we were given a reason for her being a late bloomer, or if she’d had that Bridget Jones charm. Yinka only wishes that it wasn’t such public pressure including lengthy prayers at her sister’s baby shower (to the obvious dismay of the white Britains at the party).

A provocative debut novel about a marriage in crisis that asks the question: Can you ever be rooted in a home that's on the brink of collapse? to rising action (poor choices, self-sabotage, wallowing, changing oneself for the guy, neglecting friends and loved ones, generally figuring out what it means to love oneself) and finally the turning or breaking point when she digs herself out of the conflict, with lessons learned, hard truths faced, and growth claimed. At 30-something the man she was with for three years and was positive she would marry has dumped her. Das Buch fand ich echt super: Ehrliche Unterhaltung, wo wirklich niemand verschont wird, allen voran die Protagonistin Yinka. Meet Yinka: a thirty-something, Oxford-educated, British Nigerian woman with a well-paid job, good friends, and a mother whose constant refrain is "Yinka, where is your huzband?i loved that she's surrounded by a cast of heartfelt characters - special shout-outs to nana, yinka's unwaveringly supportive best friend (who is also proudly aromantic), and donovan with the "woke hoodies", whom yinka re-befriends through outreach work.

Soon things get worse when another cousin announces her engagement and Yinka is made redundant (let go) at her bank job. Just even knowing the impact I have on people’s lives, especially Black women’s lives, is just so humbling. Instead, we get a plot about Yinka "changing herself" (she barely changes) and one time she lies about going to counseling, and one time she blurts a secret about her cousin at a wedding shower.her] lighthearted tone helps deliver heavy thoughts on colorism, the tension of cultural differences, and the benefits of therapy, as the story moves toward a happy ending on all fronts. Despite a few predictable moments, the storyline remained entertaining as themes such as colourism and mental health were explored. Yinka’s story will uplift so many women, so many of whom, wonder whether they are deserving of love.

When her cousin gets engaged, Yinka makes a plan to find a find a date for the wedding, sometimes going to great lengths along the way. I could relate to how Yinka settles for something and convinces herself that it’s only as much as she deserves or what she’s good at because it’s easier than unpicking what’s not working for her.I don’t know if it should be us as the readers to go support all authors, but look at independent and self-published books as well because there are a lot of gems in them as well. And I knew that like many others who long to find love and settle down, she doubted whether this would ever happen to her. Blackburn explains she was inspired by Bridget Jones’s Diary, and originally experimented with a similar diary format before finding something even more of the moment: “What better way than to get into the psyche of Yinka than knowing what she taps into on the internet? Her friends then treat her to an intervention and act like she's started murdering animals in the street.