Listen to the quiet voice within you. If there’s an aspect of your life that genuinely needs change, you’ll know. But the motivation for change should come from a place of self-respect, not external validation. Change, both unforeseen and intentional, is a part of life’s journey. It’s essential to embrace it. Life’s unexpected offerings aren’t coincidences but signposts, nudging us toward needed transformation. Imagine standing at the edge of a high dive, your heart racing. You’ve spent years circling the pool, convincing yourself it’s where you should be. But now, the invitation to leap, to embrace change, stands right in front of you. When you’re ready to heal, you will need to lay yourself down in a very safe space and focus on those tense feelings. Have them show you their origins. You will begin to see moments you forgot about, feelings you forgot you ever felt. The past will come up in blinks and vignettes. Slowly, over time, you will awaken to what is really wrong—which is the piece of you that had to break off and build a wall around your heart because behind it was a wound you did not yet know how to heal. It is your job to realize that you are the master of your fate, and that you are accepting the love you think you're worthy of.

Understanding the root of the behavior more completely will not only ensure that you change your actions going forward, but it will give you a greater sense of peace because you’re trusting in wisdom, not your impulses. It took me almost two months to finish this. Do I feel better about life than when I started? Yes, I do. I’m unsure how much of this book is responsible, but there’s no doubt it played a role, and for that I’m grateful. The third thought pattern is that people often feel responsible for every problem around them. Maybe you constantly find yourself in a spiral of worry over issues you have little control over. It’s crucial to understand that not every problem within your proximity is your cross to bear. As an actionable step, start distinguishing between problems within your sphere of influence and those that are beyond it. This will free you from unnecessary worries and anxieties. Sometimes we tend to forget that our current situation does not have to be our destiny. Charlotte Freeman, Everything You'll Ever Need

Our healed selves are not our most flawless selves. They are not immune to sadness or grief or fear. They are just not controlled by those experiences any longer. They feel sadness when it is time for sadness, and grief when it is time to grieve, and contentment on a more regular basis. They fear things that are unknown or important or both, but they do not allow that emotion to prevent them from moving forward. Life can be deeply challenging and profoundly unfair, and without the ability to move through the feelings that may accompany our experiences in real time, we often become trapped in the old stories we once wove around them. Real love and compassion aren’t about forgiving and forgetting your way through numerous transgressions, violations or betrayals. It’s about being able to let go of the person who would subject you to those in the first place. It’s about knowing you can practice compassion from a distance, knowing that holding someone accountable is one of the most loving things you can do for them. Highly manipulative people don’t respond to compassion. They respond to consequences. Shahida Arabi, Power As a reader, the part where the author had captivated my mind and soul was through this: “ When you are ready, you will step behind it.”, which fore by means that whenever you feel angry, sad, anxious, or other negative emotions that tries to eat you up alive, they are just disguised as a sign for you to wake up. In other words, it is a challenge and a demand for you to repeat this process until you notice that you are growing lighter. Not only that, it also makes you realize that even though you cannot control the passage of time, you can somehow change your story.

It can begin with a one-time event — typically some form of sudden loss that disrupts our projection of what the future might be. However, the true work of healing is allowing that disruption to wake us from a deep state of unconsciousness, to release the personas we adapted into, and begin consciously piecing together the full truth of who we were meant to be. Remember, what you invest your energy in defines your existence, so prioritize cultivating genuine connections and focus on the plants that are eager to grow in your garden of life. Bad feelings should not always be interpreted as deterrents. They are also indicators that you are doing something frightening and worthwhile. Not wanting to do something would make you feel indifferent about it. Fear = interest. Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays Actually, things are really right, which is why you finally feel safe enough to feel what you really feel. Stop projecting. Stop telling stories. Those dull, unsettling feelings are not in the future—they’re in the past.Overcorrection is the equivalent of aiming to fix what’s not broken, assuming that every aspect of your life is fundamentally flawed. This might mean pushing yourself to the limits of productivity, trying to fit into an idealized image, or obsessing over the outward appearance of social connections. This vicious cycle of overcorrection is birthed from the feeling of not being good enough and from a relentless quest for external validation. This leads to another nugget of wisdom – to make it a priority to cultivate a space filled with individuals who genuinely care, listen, and connect. Imagine this as a garden. The more you water the plants that are eager to grow, the more you’ll see your garden flourish. The same concept applies to relationships – the more energy you pour into genuine connections, the more rewarding they become. Extend this idea to the people in your life. Some of these individuals may not be ready to reciprocate the love you extend. Investing love in those who aren’t prepared to reciprocate is like watering a plant that’s unwilling to grow – you’re wasting precious resources that could be nurturing flowers ready to bloom. The first step here is to identify these relationships, reevaluate them, and determine where you should be focusing your energy. Remember, you’re not really letting go, you’re accepting what’s already gone. Herein lies the heart of the matter – what you invest your energy in defines your existence. This Is How You Heal" also explores the connection between our physical health and emotional well-being, offering insights into how to care for our bodies and minds in a holistic way. You'll learn about the latest research on the mind-body connection and discover how to nourish yourself with healthy food, exercise, and self-care practices. Comprehensive Content: The book covers a wide range of topics related to healing and personal transformation. It explores themes such as letting go of the past, embracing vulnerability, setting boundaries, and finding purpose. The comprehensive nature of the content ensures that readers can find something relevant to their own healing journey.

When you imagine all of the possible outcomes for your life, the negative options probably seem more real than the positive ones. This is because of negativity bias, which is where we are inclined to believe that bad things are more real than good things, because we're more afraid of them. By recognizing and challenging self-limiting thought patterns, reconnecting with your instincts, and embracing self-acceptance, you can break free from the cycle of overcorrection and step into the fullness of your life.With the exception of an abrupt and sudden loss of someone you love or the closure of a company you assumed would be around forever, for example, almost anything we lose in life has often been foreshadowed for a very Consider the clothes that no longer fit your evolving identity. You’re not the same person you were when you bought that favorite shirt years ago. By holding on to these articles, you’re clinging to a version of yourself that you’ve outgrown. Letting go of these physical items can be symbolic of the more significant emotional and psychological changes that are occurring within you.

In this book, Brianna Wiest very beautifully explains how healing is a multidimensional process, encompassing the mind, body, and spirit. She offers practical exercises, meditations, and self-care practices that integrate these different aspects, creating a well-rounded approach to healing.The author emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and compassion throughout the healing journey. Her approach is very gentle and non-judgmental, creating a safe space for readers to explore their emotions and begin the healing processStruggling to stay in the comfort of the familiar, we often don blinders, ignoring the paths opening before us. Put yourself in the shoes of a hiker. You might’ve set off on a path, content with the route you’ve chosen. But if you’re constantly glancing at the map, doubting your direction, you’re likely on the wrong trail. It’s when you’re embracing the journey, absorbing the beauty around you, that you’re on the right path. Whether you're new to the journey of self-healing or have been on it for a while, "This Is How You Heal" offers a fresh perspective and new insights that will help you take your healing to the next level. With its compassionate and empowering approach, this book will guide you every step of the way towards a more fulfilling and joyful life. I found the content reinforced many things from a well being course I completed recently. It also solidified things my therapist encourages me to do – so, Brianna’s advice and guidance is the real deal. It made me realise just how many positive things I’m doing within my own healing process, which was quite validating.