I was just curious why this book is known for its 'self-love' content even though the title has the name of food. Lol. Buku nonfiksi ini berisi rekapan percakapan antara si penulis–yang menderita Distimia–dengan psikiaternya selama prosesnya untuk bisa lebih menyayangi dirinya sendiri. Terjemahannya bagus, isinya menarik, tapi memang sebaiknya buku ini secara perlahan dan tidak dibaca dalam sekali duduk. Jadi pastikan ada rehat di sela-sela membaca. Korean author Baek-Sehee has her whole life ahead of her. She works as a successful young social media director at a publishing house where her boss seems to genuinely care about her. Yet, despite her loving friends and doting family, she finds herself at a loss. She feels depressed, constantly running low, feeling anxious, and self-conscious. On the outside, she cultivates a perfect porcelain mask for her loved ones, who are not at all aware of the agony she endures. To find answers, she decides to consult a psychiatrist. What’s wrong with her? Such turmoil can’t be normal, right?

But if she's so hopeless, why can she always summon a desire for her favourite street food, the hot, spicy rice cake, tteokbokki? Is this just what life is like? Baek Se-hee spoke about her mental health in such a candid way. Although she didn’t shy away from revealing the difficult and dark parts of her experiences, and herself, she also filled this book with so much light. There’s a desire to punish yourself, shall we say. You have this superego that exerts control over you, a superego built not only from your own experiences but cobbled together from all sorts of things that you admire, creating an idealised version of yourself. But that idealised version of yourself is, in the end, only an ideal. It’s not who you actually are. You keep failing to meet that ideal in the real world, and then you punish yourself. If you have a strict superego, the act of being punished eventually becomes gratifying. For example, if you’re suspicious of the love you’re receiving, and so act out until your partner lashes out and leaves you, you feel relief. You eventually become controlled more by imaginary outside forces than anything that is actually you.’ And to conclude, this Freudian bale of hay ultimately validated my feelings (of not being the right reader for the book). And to reiterate my point above, I truly hope this book can bring someone else comfort even though it did nothing for me. Why did I continue reading this even though I already knew halfway through that this wasn't for me? Well, to put it simply, I think Anton Hur is super cool, and I will read everything he translates/writes. Don't get me wrong, the experience wasn't awful at all, it just wasn't 'rewarding'/'fulfilling'. In this second book. The author tells a process of accepting herself as she is and how to love herself more. The acceptance of herself and the fact that everything needs a process is told in her second book.

Siri 2 ini rasa bertambah berat. Rasa gelap menyelubungi. Sama seperti siri 1 penulis asyik mahu berhenti kerja tapi Doktor selalu minta penulis fikir balik. Bagi kata-kata rasional. Boleh aku katakan Doktor ini sangat profesional. Jadi belajarlah tak prejudis pada para psikologis.

Seperti warna covernya, aura buku topoki kedua ini lebih gelap. Aku kira ia memang akan menuliskan kesembuhannya di buku ini. Namun justru sebaliknya. Meski kemudian aku menemukan kesan bahwa "Oh, pikirannya sudah lebih terbuka setelah kecelakaan itu,". Tapi seperti yang dikatakan Se Hee, bahwa buku ini akhirnya diselesaikan bukan karena ia sembuh, atau buku ini kemudian gagal diselesaikan bukan karena ia tak kunjung sembuh. Yang menjadi bagian penting adalah bahwa ia sudah berusaha, dan ia sudah menemukan bahwa dirinya mulai bisa merasa, menerima, dan kemudian mengekspresikan perasaannya dengan cara-cara yang lebih baik. I personally like Siapa Yang Datang ke Pemakamanku better because that book somehow is more encouraging than this one. Baek Se-hee circled on the same problems on and on and after reading it for a while, it’s getting too monotone for me. I think she can use that space to encourage people better - not only telling and retelling.Recommended to fans of medical memoir, mental health self-help; readers interested in psychology, psychiatry; readers seeking diverse voices

empathy is an act of imagination. If I don’t plant the seed in myself, it will never grow. Which is why some people never seem to understand the lives of others. But the only way to create something inside me that is not there to begin with is through imagination. You’ve got to learn how to empathise, to imagine. Baek Sehee is a successful young social media director at a publishing house when she begins seeing a psychiatrist about her – what to call it? – depression? She feels persistently low, anxious, endlessly self-doubting, but also highly judgemental of others. She hides her feelings well at work and with friends; adept at performing the calmness, even ease, her lifestyle demands. The effort is exhausting, overwhelming, and keeps her from forming deep relationships. This can't be normal. Buku ini adalah kelanjutan dari buku sebelumnya dengan judul yang sama. Isi buku adalah percakapan konsultasi antara Baek See Hee (penulis) dengan psikiaternya. Format yang dipakai di buku kedua ini juga sama dengan buku sebelumnya yaitu dengan bentuk percakapan. Sesekali diselingi essay singkat untuk memulai b What a talent, what a career, what a life, and what a treat to relive it all with this most down-to-earth of demigods.I don't read a lot of self-help books–I can't remember any apart from Loveability by Robert Holden, but I didn't even finish reading the book completely–so I was quite unsure what to expect from reading this. I had wanted to love this book, and that is exactly how it ended to be—and perhaps I love it more than I had hoped. Oleh karena itu, besar harapanku buku ini bisa menambah kesadaran masyarakat terhadap isu kesehatan mental dan menjadi lebih bersahabat dan mendukung teman-teman yang sedang mengalaminya. Will strike a chord with anyone who feels that their public life is at odds with how they really feel inside.' - Red

Meskipun buku ini tidak memberikan tips survive atau cara sembuh dari gangguan mental. Namun, penulis mampu memberi pemahaman bahwa pentingnya kesadaran dan upayah untuk berobat ke Ahlinya. Alih2 memberi cara yg belum tentu berhasil ditiap individu. Emosi penulis kian kecamuk kadang tegang kadang cool. Jadi, Doktor sarankan untuk dirawat di wad. Aku tertarik dengan terapi cara 'Psiko-drama'. Teknik yang diterangkan dalam ni mungkin ramai tanpa sengaja pernah lakukan. Ternyata itu juga termasuk teknik rawatan masalah ini. I just finished the first book a couple days ago and I really love this self development book because... It's not give me a bright ending. It shows me that if you want to heal yourself, you need a time. It's okay at least you have a progress. Also one important thing is sometimes when you are on the way on healing, you can feeling bad again. But that's okay, that's also a progress. Don't give up on your healing session!. Se-hee is blunt yet charming, I couldn't help but respect her throughout this book. The best parts of the text are her essays, which come at the beginning of each chapter, and at the end of the book. The book is a write up of Baek’s time in therapy discussing this, as well as how she tends to use food for comfort. Usually the psychologist in me means that I have issues over confidentially, but as this is specifically Baek’s own stuff, I think I’m okay.Se-hee deserves better, but it's not her fault she didn't get it. People get sub-par mental health care every day, all over the world. So I'm only taking off one star, even though that guy needs a new calling. Like with plants. I used to treat empathy as something very difficult, and shut myself off from the things that didn’t affect me emotionally. But surely to create something in me that didn’t exist before and to extend emotional solidarity to another person is one of the rites of adulthood. We are so far, and yet so near to so many people. The literal Ctrl+C of the discussions you have with your psychiatrist do not hold any literary merit, which surprises me and puts into question the validity of creative writing courses in Korea. Did 언니 learn nothing?