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Gifts- Gifts do not have to be extravagant. They can be small. For example, maybe the submissive likes chocolate, coffee mugs, or makeup. You can get her one of these items and present it to her when she does as you ask or complies with a rule that has been difficult for her to follow in the past. Punishments can be corporal or reflective. Both work well, you need to figure out with your Dominant or submissive, which is best for you. Either way, corrections of missteps help deepen the connection between you and help strengthen the relationship. The Dominant can be more affectionate and the submissive can be more pleasing. Really, it’s for the submissive’s own good. Lines- Think like the bad students writing “I will not chew gum” on the board over and over again. Same concept. Both of the writing punishments are effective because they require internal thought combined with a physical action. There is something cathartic that happens when you commit an idea or thought to paper. It helps commit the idea to memory.

There are two different elements at play here. One is discipline and the other is punishment. How are they different, you ask? Don’t they go hand in hand? Yes and no. By definition discipline is to train to act in accordance with a specific set of rules. This is like going to the gym when you are training for a race of some sort. Punishment is a consequence of breaking a set of rules that have been established. Think detention for being late to school. Two sides of the same coin that work together for the best desired outcome. Essays- This should have the submissive explain the rule that was broken, why the rule is important, and why they must follow through with this consequence. Writing an essay forces the submissive to put into words what happened. It could even be structured in the way of an apology that has three parts: 1) I’m sorry for ____ 2)I need to follow this rule because ______, and 3)In the future I will do _____ to follow the rules set by my Dominant because he has my best interests in mind.Whips- This group includes regular whips, riding crops, and floggers. Impact from these types of instruments spread the strike out. All play requires a “yes”. If it’s a “maybe” - put it off for another time. Talk about it more and sort out your worries.

Speech Restrictions- The submissive is not allowed to talk to the Dominant. For me, this would be a very painful punishment. I need a voice and to be unable to speak to him would be very painful. After we had been together a while I asked him to collar more permanently. I more or less actually proposed! On one knee and all that, after a very intense session. The answer I got was that he would think about it! He did think about it, and shopped around and bought me an eternity collar. I wear it all the time apart from when he requires me to wear something else. D/s looks different for every pair of partners. Even you, as an individual, can need and want different things from each partnership. One of the biggest components of BDSM is that the relationship consists of a Dominant and a submissive. This is actually the cornerstone of this lifestyle. A Dominant will take control of the submissive. The extent of control is discussed and agreed upon between the two parties before any play time can happen. If you like this idea but aren’t wanting to get something permanent like a tattoo, you can try either temporary tattoos or writing your lover’s name on you (which, I can say from experience, is super hot). Rings or Other JewelryAs a submissive, when I hear these things, it helps me relax. It helps me trust. It helps me see myself the way my Dom sees me. I want to please him, and when I please him, he rewards me. And that thrills me more than anything. He has me and it makes me want to do more to please him. I’m delighted and fulfilled when he is happy with me. For me, ownership needs to feel permanent, but also part of a loving and happy relationship. The things that symbolize ownership to me are things I can't get rid of too easily since the collar needs a special allen key that he keeps to remove it and my tattoo, of course, would need to be removed surgically. Both of these mean as much to me as my engagement ring. Sitting in a corner- Submissive sits in the corner of the room to have quiet reflection on the rule breaking. This should not be for an undetermined amount of time. Dominants should be careful to tow the line between correction and abuse. When a submissive finds the right Dominant, some magic can happen. But there is one more step. You both need to agree on what you will both do, your limits, and punishments. Contracts

The desired outcome is to have a healthy relationship where you both feel safe, happy, and cared for. By following rules that are set by the Dom, the submissive can relax and trust that they are taken care of. When the submissive complies with the rules, the Dominant feels proud that he is able to have been given the gift of submission. The Dominant then feels accepted, desired, and confident like the Master they are. Power Play Touching Restrictions- The submissive is not allowed to touch or be touched by the Dominant. If the submissive shows their affection through touch, this can be especially difficult.

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There are many physical types of punishments and those are the ones we typically think of. And while impact play can be a part of your BDSM relationship, the Dominant shouldn’t push the submissive with corporal punishments that push them beyond their limits. Safe words can be used during punishment if they are needed. The Dominant shouldn’t use punishment in moments of anger and they should remain in control.

Cementing ownership to/of someone can be an intimate thing and, as explained above, it can also be an intricately personal thing. Ownership can come in the form of mere words, actions, or more materialistic things like collars or gifts. There’s also the fascinating world of BDSM contracts. Let’s dive into some of the most common BDSM ownership options. Collars Responsible Dom/mes understand their submission is a gift and good submissive’s understand that Dom/mes need to be needed/wanted as well.Owning a submissive (particularly the submissive that you desire) can be such a prideful thing. This beautiful, obedient, (in your eyes) perfect submissive has decided to give you the most precious thing someone could give - their obedience and loyalty. Being gifted someone’s submission can be a huge point of pride, especially when it comes to acts of ownership. To a submissive, ownership can be about enhancing the connection you already have.