For this reason God gave them up to degrading passions. Their women exchanged natural intercourse for unnatural, 27 and in the same way also the men, giving up natural intercourse with women, were consumed with passion for one another. Men committed shameless acts with men and received in their own persons the due penalty for their error.” (NRSV)

Use whole-body massage. Some women enjoy having their legs, arms, and/or breasts caressed while receiving oral. Calvert says many women and vulva-having people have internalised negative messages about their genitals, sex and pleasure. ‘They may be uncomfortable about receiving oral sex because it puts them in the spotlight and they feel less in control. They may feel pressure to perform to please their partner – pressure to orgasm,’ she adds. Lie down, then bend your knees and bend and hug your legs as close to your chest as they’ll go. The All Curled Up position will introduce an entirely new angle to oral sex, which may pave the way for some finger play or sex toy supplementation, too. Kerner has a chapter called “The Cunnlingus Manifesto,” which includes three important guidelines for helping you and your partner enjoy the experience even more: So the first thing is to ask what they like and what they don’t like, what they’re into, what they’re not into.”An easy way to switch things up? Stand during oral sex . While most cunnilingus positions involve you sitting or lying down, the Lean Forward has you standing up and — you guessed it — leaning forward while your partner kneels behind you. Feel free to use the walls for stability, be they in your bedroom, your living room or your shower. Here’s an expert guide to cunnilingus, including a step-by-step guide on how to give (and receive) oral pleasure, plus the all-important STI and sexual health risks associated with the sex act: What is cunnilingus? Don’t just get your head in between the legs but intend to arouse their body by stimulating their erogenous zones by kissing, touching, stimulating other parts of their body and really building up that arousal,” Georgia says. Remember that sex does not have to be limited to the bedroom. Experiment around the house to keep things fresh. High tables are excellent for oral sex, as they allow for different style of oral pleasure other than lying down.

Sexually transmitted infections ( STIs) can be transmitted through oral sex, so precautions are a must. ‘Anyone who has oral sex with an infected partner can get an STI on the genitals – penis, vagina, anus – or their mouth or throat,’ says Sabat. ‘Make no mistake, the reverse transmission is just as possible: if a person with a mouth or throat STI performs oral sex on their partner, they can spread the infection to their partner’s genitals.’ If you want to receive oral sex but feel self-conscious for any reason, Calvert suggests getting to know your own body. ‘Think about your relationship with your genitals – what do you feel about your vulva? What do you feel about oral sex and receiving pleasure? When having sex, practice staying in the body, and in the present.’ If what you learned in high school is that forming the letters A-Z with your tongue is the way to make a woman come, I regret to tell you that you've been woefully misinformed. Words like “sinful”, “unnatural”, “perverse”, “degrading”, “degeneration”, “transgression”, etc. reflect the points of view of the various ancient authors, and not my own.

Cunnilingus gif: positions to try when stimulating your partner with your tongue

You can also use the labia to massage the clit by gently pressing the lips together and kneading the clit between your fingers,” said Tribby. “Putting firm pressure on the mons pubis (the mound) and incorporating circular motions will also help to awake the nerves.” If your partner happens to be into clit biting, well, you might just get the green light to introduce your chompers! But in short: Without a verbalized invitation, keep your teeth to yourself when it comes to oral. 8. Once you get comfortable with each other’s bodies, consider introducing some new moves. Stirring the root of her thighs, which her own hands are gripping and holding widely apart, your fluted tongue drinks at her sacred spring: this is Kshobhaka”. Combining sensations and different forms of stimulation will help your partner to experience pleasure more intensely. ‘When massaging your partner’s vulva with your tongue, try combining it with gentle suctions of the labia majora and labia minora, followed by suctions of the clitoris, when it is eventually reached,’ says Sabat. ‘Not only will this have a surprising effect on your partner, but it will help her experience stimulation and arousal like never before.’ 16. Be adventurous

Here is the main issue: When dealing with potential parallels Sandmel’s warnings against “parallelomania” are very, very helpful. It is, of course, very interesting to delve into the world of Greco-Roman sexual norms as it is mediated by brothel art and graffiti, and at this level of abstraction (i.e. “sexual norms”) there will be obvious similarities, as there would be with any author writing about sex. This by itself does not constitute a real parallel. It sounds like the stuff of urban myth, but what you eat really does impact the smell and taste of your genitals. ‘Diuretic foods such as pineapple or melon are recommended to improve the taste and smell of genitals, while foods with stronger flavours, such as asparagus, broccoli, cabbage, or garlic, can alter the smell or flavour, and result in unpleasant smells or tastes,’ says Sabat. 5. Stay hydrated The harsh translations throughout this blog intend to reflect the original crudeness of the authors who wrote them. If you can convey each of these beliefs in a sincere way, you’re miles ahead of most people! Get comfortable: You’re in it for the long haul Why shouldn’t we think that Paul might adapt his message to fit his Roman audience (it does not mean he needs to believe it)…or, at least, be conversant enough to combat it? He seems to be at home in other Greco-Roman sexual practices (e.g. cultic prostitution in the Corinthian correspondence).

6. Focus on your partner’s whole body and energy.

Receivers, I don’t want that for you! And givers, I want you to love it because it’s fun, delicious and super enjoyable. Kerner’s approach to cunnilingus is unique in focusing on the commissure, which is the area right above the clitoris and clitoral hood. It’s a smooth area of skin that tends to get ignored, due to its proximity to the obviously more infamous clitoris. In his chapters on female anatomy, Kerner talks about the fact that pressure on the commissure can stimulate some of the internal fibers of the clitoris. Here’s one of Kerner’s specific technique for the pleasuring the commissure:

If you’re eager to wash immediately before engaging in oral sex, showering with your partner is a great way to prioritise hygiene without killing the mood. ‘In fact, it can even act as a great catalyst to foreplay,’ says Sabat. ‘Ask your partner if they’d like to clean up with you in the shower, and gently lather each other’s bodies in soap. Standing close together under the warm stream of water and caressing one another will help you enjoy the sensual sensations this environment brings to an already intimate moment.’ 3. Go easy on the soap I do not intend to posit a one-to-one correlation between my findings and the content in Paul. For me, I’m simply trying to reconstruct a possible context and belief, which (likely) Paul and (certainly) his followers in Rome would have noted as familiar. I agree, I could have spent more time on Paul or Jewish sexuality, but I had blog-sized space and wanted to offer a different perspective (see Loader, Gagnon, Brooten, et al who have argued extensively from a Jewish perspective). A little prep is essential on both sides. For the giver, trimmed nails and clean hands are important when using fingers in or around the anus. For the receiver, a through clean in the bath or shower using gentle soap and water is a must. And as ever, be sure to use protection. ‘Like any other oral sexual practice, you should always use barrier protection to prevent the spread of disease and infection’ says Sabat. ‘You can also use a dry condom or a latex glove to create a barrier at home.’ 27. Slow and steadyInterestingly enough, ‘The Crow’ is the origin of the 69 position. This position can perhaps be considered one of the most erotic positions for oral sex, as both partners are able to stimulate each other, providing intense pleasure for those who like to give as well as receive.