My father was a kidder, and he could usually make me laugh; in laughing I was able to feel better about myself. He also gave me a piece of advice about beauty that has stayed with me. 'Beauty fades' he used to say, 'but dumb? Dumb is forever.' " I had never done anything like this before--in part because I had nothing to touch. I was scared to death, but I let a boy touch my breasts that day--such as they were. And that was my introduction, at a very young age, to the way women defer to men.

Beauty Fades/Dumb Is Forever: The Making of a Happy Woman

Sheindlin passed the New York state bar examination in 1965 and became a prosecutor in the family court system. In 1982 New York City Mayor Ed Koch appointed her as a judge, first in criminal court, then later as Manhattan's supervising family court judge in 1986. The star of her own TV courtroom on the syndicated program Judge Judy, Sheindlin here pens her first book for children. Brief author's notes for parents and for kids introduce 36 open-ended Continue reading » Autobiography and self-help collide in Sheindlin's latest book (after Don't Pee on My Leg and Tell Me It's Raining). Known to millions because of her TV program, Judge Judy, Sheindlin writes with the same theatrical no-nonsense directness that animates her on-air persona. Her theme is stated best in the title, which is just the first of many declarative chestnuts. Aimed at women trying to make it in male-dominated workplaces and traditional marriages, the book is broken into chapters that expound on basic principles illustrated with one or two examples from Sheindlin's long career (Revlon, Manhattan Family Court, network television). There's a slew of surprisingly personal recollections about her own marriages, husbands and divorces. The forthright self-revelations reveal an unusual person with, apparently, no conception of being eccentric. Conventional statements ("I believe that one determined, skilled person can do just about anything") have surprising conclusions: "That's why I keep a Hoover File, as in J. Edgar." Sheindlin unself-consciously goes on to describe how she used her Hoover File to ensure her reappointment to the bench. There are several such gems, all of which will be enjoyed by Judge Judy watchers. Sheindlin's voice comes through with amazing clarity: fans of her show will hear it as they read. (Feb.) Those who have tuned into Judge Judy's TV broadcasts, even momentarily, will recognize her no-nonsense approach here. Her straightforward personality shines through her writing, making it a joy to read. Reminiscent of Laura Schlessinger's Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives (LJ 10/15/97), Sheindlin's book doesn't pussyfoot around when explaining how women can create unhappiness in their own lives. Her main point is that a woman can't rely on a man to provide her with a life, nor should she even try. Although some readers may find Sheindlin's male bashing a little over the top--at one point she claims that "within the family structure, what men do best is breathe"--her hit-them-over-the-head approach makes this book well worth buying for most collections.--Pamela A. Matthews, Gettysburg Coll. Lib., PAurn:oclc:43264765 Scandate 20111115190525 Scanner scribe11.shenzhen.archive.org Scanningcenter shenzhen Worldcat (source edition) Judge Judy takes on stupidity. Offering advice to women seeking to build a strong foundation for their lives, Steindlin combines her experiences as Family Court judge, wife and grandmother. She clues women in on how to keep their individuality and nourish their strengths. This book resonates with the voice of Judge Sheindlin.... It is instructional, motivational and full of practical advice.... She empowers through the can-do energy. This is quite different than her book I read a few days ago. That one was about the judicial system, and how people manipulate it.

Quote by Judge Judy Sheindlin: “Beauty fades, dumb is forever.”

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Although I get frustrated when I watch her because of her attitude sometimes, I really enjoyed this book. It was like talking to your mom's or your grandmother's best friend and asking her all the stuff you'd like to have been able to talk with your mom or grandmother about. In this book, Judge Judy talks about respecting yourself. She talks about making smart choices. Beauty fades, dumb is forever. How true is that?! If I could be beauty or brains, I'd choose brains all the way. I've got to be honest: I didn't finish this book, so I don't feel right about giving it a rating. Nevertheless, I'll tell you why I didn't finish it. On my television program, Judge Judy, all the cases are real, and the parties agree to abide by my decisions. This is life in the nitty-gritty mundane. So many of the cases are about the petty, greedy, selfish, stupid things people do to one another. A large percentage of the cases are demonstrations of women who make outlandish choices for the sake of having a man. Cases in point: urn:oclc:40396331 Republisher_date 20120725220610 Republisher_operator [email protected] Scandate 20120725095106 Scanner scribe26.shenzhen.archive.org Scanningcenter shenzhen Worldcat (source edition)

Beauty fades, dumb is forever : the making of a happy woman

Lccn 98051364 Ocr ABBYY FineReader 8.0 Ocr_converted abbyy-to-hocr 1.1.6 Ocr_module_version 0.0.13 Openlibrary OL388228M Openlibrary_edition Judge Judy's father impressed upon her that a bright intellect, a curious mind, and a passion for learning are priceless commodities. "For as long as I can remember," she writes, "the worst insult someone could give me was to say 'You're stupid.' In fact to this day, it's second nature for me when I'm on the bench to point a finger to the side of my head and ask, 'Does it say stupid here?' "--the implied answer being a resounding no. TV's Judge Judy's first book for children is a set of 36 multiple choice questions designed to encourage discussion between parent and child concerning the value of making smart decisions. Continue reading » Good Advice: She admonishes mothers who only compliment their daughters’ prettiness, telling them to focus on children’s talents, strengths, and character instead. For the past 10 years, Sheindlin has been the supervising judge for Manhattan Family Court, with a reputation for cutting through judicial and bureaucratic obfuscation. Joined by Los Angeles Times Continue reading »This is the dirty little secret that women share and rarely talk about. You can be the president of a corporation, an astronaut, a neurosurgeon, a judge--it doesn't matter. All of us started from the same ground zero with the lesson: In the course of her career as a family court judge and a presiding judge on the popular courtroom show that bears her name, Judge Judy has seen over and over again, the devastating fallout for women who have made stupid choices on marriage, parenting and their future. She has seen women make excuses for those who abuse them and women who tolerate demeaning and demoralizing conditions at work. She has seen women who, instead of choosing mates, allowed themselves to be chosen. She has seen women who elected to defer to men instead of their own judgment. Bad Advice: While recognizing that men tend to have the positions of authority in many workplace settings, she says that most sexual harassment claims are just men being their immature, juvenile selves sharing “junior high school humor” and that women need to lighten up. Access-restricted-item true Addeddate 2010-03-09 19:18:29 Boxid IA112212 Camera Canon EOS 5D Mark II City New York, NY Donor Don't crawl when you can fly -- What goes up must come down -- Denial is a river in Egypt -- Master the game then play it -- You're the trunk of the tree -- You can't teach the bull to dance -- Failure doesn't build character -- Letting go is half the fun -- You can be the hero of your own story -- A final word: do not abdicate

Beauty Fades, Dumb Is Forever: The Making of a Happy Woman

I am completely biased because I have an unhealthy obsession with Judge Judy because she is perfect in every way and she should definitely be president of the United States, so of course I found this book perfect. The best way to explain it is that she gives such urgency to everything she writes that even when the topic is a total bore, it's exciting, although I think it's probably much more enjoyable from someone who won't relate to the people she scolds. Her goal of this book slaps you in the face, "Beauty fades, dumb is forever" is the lesson, and though primarily directed at women, anybody will have their internal "amen, sister" run through their head at one of her rants, because if there's one thing this judge is definitely NOT, it's subtle. In a way this is a life instruction guide for the idiots of the world. Almost forgot: over half the book is dedicated to marriage and motherhood – sorry, single and kids-free by choice ladies!

Well, maybe I exaggerate, but what does it matter? A day, a week, a month--who in her right mind would hand over her credit card to a virtual stranger? She trusted him, she claims. That's a lie. She never trusted him, not deep down. Betrayal is the story of her life. Thanks to her choice of boyfriends, she's always in debt. There was a time in my professional life when I found myself in that very position. I had a lot of ideas and I was happy to share. My male colleague was just as happy to take the credit. I began to feel like a fool--especially when my colleague got a promotion and I didn't. I decided that I could run the risk of not being liked, but I couldn't stand living trapped in the body of an idiot. So I spoke up, and I'm still here. By the way, it felt terrific!