Liquid Love: On the Frailty of Human Bonds

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Exploring your mindBlog about psychology and philosophy. Articles and opinions on happiness, fear and other aspects of human psychology. The space is safely and responsibly held throughout the session. Within the boundaries discussed at the outset, you are invited to explore the experience in whatever way makes you feel most comfortable. It is typical of the information society and consumption in which we find ourselves. People give more value to present experience, to freedom without any kind of ties , to the punctual and little responsible consumption and to the immediate satisfaction of the corporal and intellectual needs. Everything that does not meet the requirement of immediacy, of "throwaway", is discarded.

Eyal the organiser answers the door. He's friendly and entirely unthreatening, and suddenly I'm not as petrified as I was. His flat smells of incense and Amber later tells me she's surprised he didn't tidy up. We sit fully clothed in a circle while Eyal talks us through the rules. They are pretty much no wanking, no penetration and no standing up on the sheet once it's oily. There's a two-taps-means-no policy, if anyone's wandering hands are unwelcome. Eyal, who gets naked but doesn’t get involved, has been running Liquid Love once or twice a month for the last two years. His neighbours are yet to take part. Eyal warms the olive oil for the session. Please ensure you have informed the hosts if you are pregnant or have any specific medical conditions they need to be aware of. People are not consumer products, nor do we have a planned obsolescence like any electrical appliance. We think, we feel, and we love. But we must always start with ourselves, seeing ourselves as people who deserve to be loved. We invite you to move beyond personal preference and ideas of sexual attraction, into a space of welcoming and appreciating everyone. The concept is simple: we will pour warm, fine, olive oil on to your skin, from where it will spread out over you body and form a lubricious substance, which allows you to float in a sea together with other oily bodies.That’s why, in his uniquely poetic way, Bauman came up with the term liquid love, which is reflected all over the world today. It escapes from our hands because we can’t solidify it and grab hold of it with enough strength, not even our own self-love. We live in an ephemeral, instantaneous world like collectors of liquid events. Every day it gets even harder to create a solid reality made up of self-love and authentic relationships that last over time with enough consistency. The need for self-love to establish real relationships This promotes the feeling that not only objects but also people are consumable, and therefore potential sexual partners are objectified. That person that attracts us is not more than a piece of meat that should be tasted, and it is not necessary that we worry about their desires, worries, needs, tastes ... How are we going to connect emotionally with someone if we are only interested in having something carnal? Liquid love and reification

verifyErrors }}{{ message }}{{ /verifyErrors }}{{ We ask you not to attend if you are in your first trimeste, but if you are in your second or third trimester you are most welcome but please advise us upon booking. On the other hand, if we trust in ourselves we can go forward little by little, noticing what the other person's desires are and being able to develop good feelings in a reciprocal way, with more lasting and stable relationships. The well understood commitment is born of the union of interests and tastes , and also of the tenderness that both people profess. 3. SlaveryIt is likely that, at some point in your life, you have heard about the Polish sociologist Zygmunt Bauman and his concept of "liquid love". The enunciation can not be more graphic: liquid love, an image that is the perfect metaphor for something common in our society: the fragility of sentimental relationships . Do you want to buy Zygmunt Bauman's Love Liquid? You can do it in this link Liquid love: defining the concept Unfortunately, this Polish philosopher’s sharp mind viewed modern society as a temporary world. Most of the people in it seek temporary satisfaction – something immediate that will make us happy for a moment. But the next moment, it’s gone, and a few seconds after that, almost forgotten.

Your PAL can be the same gender or another gender. Due to the intimate size of our sessions we ask that you do not PAL with more than one person. Our events are a supportive and safe space and there's absolutely no judgement if you can't make it for the above reasons. Due to time restrictions and to maintain absolute discretion please get in touch prior to the event if you'd like to discuss these points further as there won't be available time once you arrive at the venue.

For the uprooted and anxious man there was no direction home. He was too tense and self-conscious to swan into middle-class soirées with aplomb, and as for trying to stay chummy with people from his own class, he could put that idea right out of his head. "They can immediately detect from the uncertainty of his attitudes," wrote Hoggart, "that he belongs neither to them nor to one of the groups with which they are used to performing a hierarchical play of relations." He was doomed to be the odd man out. Please ensure you arrive in plenty of time freshly washed and clean. This is a very intimate event so please ensure you wear deodorant. Please do not use any perfum, aftershave, or other such scent-based products. We like to ensure a good mix of people and personalities in the room, and so do not strictly gender balance (i.e. one man to one woman) our sessions. What about love? It's always been a problem, but now more than ever. Its pathos, Bauman finds, is the insurmountable duality of beings. Proust knew that when Marcel trapped his beloved Albertine in his hotel room, thinking that in so doing he would finally possess her, his love for her died. Bauman writes: "Attempts to tame the wayward and domesticate the riotous, to make the unknowable predictable and enchain the free-roaming - all such things sound the death knell to love. Eros won't outlast duality. As far as love is concerned, possession, power, fusion and disenchantment are the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse."

Liquid love. It’s possible that you have heard about this interesting concept explained by sociologist Zygmunt Bauman who uses this poetic but distressing metaphor to convey the reality that seems to come up rather frequently nowadays: the fragility of relationships. My aversion to forced fun has not been altered by attending the session, but if you're up for getting slippery with strangers, Liquid Love is certainly somewhere to do it. Many people fail to understand that to love another individual deeply is necessary to love yourself first. This, which is a reality that few doubt, is not usually the basis on which many relationships are built, in which other values ​​and needs that have little to do with emotional well-being prevail. We advise a moon cup/tampon for the duration of the guided oil segment of the event. For hygiene purposes a sanitary towel won't be appropriate.In his final years, Bauman’s work turned towards postmodernism, globalization, consumerism, and the new poverty. From there rose the concept of liquid modernity, which brings us to our focus today: liquid love. Liquid love in the modern world Every effort to admit latecomers will be made at a suitable break in the event, but admission cannot always be guaranteed. Interestingly and paradoxically, the less important we are, the more individualist we become. Also, precisely in this context, we have time-sensitive needs that satisfy us momentarily. Fleeting events with a beginning and an end, and even passing from real to virtual. How to give liquid love a taste of reality Again, each session is different. You are not expected to touch anyone, and you do not have to be touched by anyone. Within the space you are able to experience Liquid Love on your own, or interact with those comfortable with touching and/or being touched. We invite you to explore both dynamics during your session. The metaphor of liquid courses through the book. Relationships are like Ribena for the new uprooted and anxious - taken undiluted, they are nauseating. Our deepest wish is to prevent our relationships from curdling and clotting (that, we fear, is what marriages used to be about). That's not to say that we're all hipster SDCs (semi-detached couples), the self-styled romantic revolutionaries who want separate pads from their partners and a Rolodex filled with ready lovers. We don't all want to pour water on troubled rela tionships, and the SDCs, so emblematic of the liquid modern age, provoke as much hostility as identification.